Trusting Our Own Authenticity Without Needing to Be Validated by Others

The following is an update and excerpt from the post, “Light & Dark Experiences from a Trip to NYC, Especially Teal Swan’s The Mirror Event” under subtitle, “The Free-spirited, Hysterical, Bawling Female Who Couldn’t Take it Anymore”:

We did various, unique exercises at this event which were highly stimulating, deeply heartfelt, triggering (in a beneficial way), upsetting (due to fear being instilled), and/or fun.

But there were at least two exercises that didn’t quite feel light; and sure enough, several other females shared their own perspective of these red flags as well.

After this particular exercise (and during lunch time), one of the females I befriended shared that she just sat down at one point because the exercise didn’t feel good. Reminder: Feelings are the language of the soul

I didn’t even think to do such an empowering action, but I highly respected and admired Roxanne for trusting and following her inner guidance.

Teal had all of us slowly walking around inside the church, imagining that we were all judging one another as we passed each other by, the way we usually do she said (which was the first red flag, because that statement wasn’t accurate for everyone).

There were so many serious expressions passing by, and understandably so; but I couldn’t help but smiling every now and then because 1) forcing a stern expression while looking at strangers pass by wasn’t natural for me, and 2) I felt like I was being pressured to do something that I had no desire to do.

After several minutes or so, one young female just busted out crying hysterically. I initially didn’t know what to do because a part of me didn’t want to interfere with Teal’s exercise, but another part of me just wanted to do what comes naturally.

For about a couple of minutes, no one approached this female who seemed like she was in a lot of pain. So I gently approached her and hugged her as we sat down in one of the chairs—something I would even do for a stranger while out and about.

At one point, Teal shouted for everyone to stop or freeze. She then asked in a very serious tone something to the effect, “Do you know who’s the healthiest person in this room?” She then answered that it was the female who was crying because she was being authentic.

After the event, and throughout that day, that same female—who seemed free-spirited at times—busted out crying even more hysterically, which then made me wonder if she was going overboard to gain attention.

Teal’s statements initially made me feel as though something was unauthentic and unhealthy with me for reaching out to that female; but I now realize that I simply chose to be authentic at that time, and it doesn’t matter that Teal or anybody else wasn’t able to see it, and even recognize it.

I recently expressed my deepest gratitude and farewell to Teal Swan, shared in post, “Embracing and Integrating Aspect of Shadow Self Who’s Afraid to Be Alone.”

I’m deeply grateful that Teal has shared a lot of profound teachings in the past, but I’ve noticed a pattern lately that she’s becoming very arrogant and one-sided over subjects that will be beneficial to be perceived as a whole; and I strongly sense that a few of her biased, narrow-minded perspectives are due to the projection of her own deepest fears.

Other example posts:

• “Embracing and Integrating the Benefits of Both Solitude and Interactions with Others“
• The following is an excerpt from, “Embracing and Integrating Aspects of Shadow Self That Worry About Haters and Overly Focus on What’s Unhealed“
  • I noticed that this topic of “haters” has been frequently brought up in various videos of yours, and I wondered why.

    Teal, I have no doubt that there are many people who highly respect and admire you, so why do you feel the strong need to often focus on the negative, like haters?

    What does that mirror for you? I’m asking because I get confused at times, since you teach about outer world mirroring inner world; and I would like to know is it because there are still parts of you that hate you?