The Phase of Upgrading to True Friends Who Are an Uplifting Influence in Life

The following is a comment (that I was able to relate to) shared by one of the viewers for the video, “Awakening Symptoms – (Outgrowing Friendships).“—which I have no doubt is one of the aspects of my Shadow Self mirroring itself (through a so-called other), and further revealing to me more about my inner world that I haven’t fully processed and healed (until I received insights from within via the reply I shared with her):

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Monica Anderson
18 hours ago
I’m trying my best to not believe that I am not meant to have a friend group. It has been so incredibly difficult knowing that I no longer resonate with most of my friends and even family members. Having people come in and last for a couple months and then fall away once more. It’s become both isolating and lonely. I am so ready for the wave of new to come in, people who understand me and my journey.

Below is my reply to the above comment:

Hi Monica, thank you so much for sharing this message that mostly expressed how I’ve been feeling for almost a decade.

The difference is, I haven’t had ANY friends for a while, but I’ve been learning to unconditionally embrace this seemingly long phase of my life; and strangely, I’ve started actually enjoying invaluable and liberating solitude time—that helps us to reconnect with our Higher Self within—that often feels peaceful (and even enjoyable) rather than lonely (shifting our perspective helps).

Like you, I’ve been doing my best to let go of the fear-based belief that I may never have friends, and instead, develop new, highly beneficial beliefs that there are countless possibilities and MANY probabilities in Life, to include the likelihood of meeting and making TRUE friends who are an amazing influence (and NOT the ones who habitually bring us down and make us unhappy).

I’d rather not have any friends, than have ones I don’t resonate with; and I have no doubt that our emotions—-inner compass that always reveals our AUTHENTIC state (how we REALLY FEEL about anything)—and true feelings (language of the Soul) will communicate to us our inner truths at ANY given moment.

Similar to what Vic mentioned in this video, I’ve also realized that I’m still learning about all that I am and what all I prefer in Life, thanks to much solitude time, and the many CONTRASTS that helped me to realize what all I DON’T prefer.

In addition, I’m still learning how to be my own best friend (first and foremost), since we can’t expect someone else to be something we’re not willing to be to ourselves.

Though I used to want others to understand me and my journey, I’ve realized that what matters MOST, is that I understand self and my journey, which helps me to better understand others and their journeys as well.

I trust that solitude time is best balanced with connection to community, but I’ve also learned that the social interactions don’t necessarily have to be with those within a physical community near where we live (for the time being), though person to person, heartfelt relationships are great as well.

For this extended phase of my life, I’ve often been interacting with those I highly resonate with online, to include YouTube videos like this. Hope this helps. You GOT this Soul sister! 😉

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