Some Observations About Cell Phone Usage, Relationships, Self & Humanity

The following are sub-themes to the main theme above:

• Being Present (In the Moment of Now and as a Loving Gift)
• Grabbing Opportunities 
• Heart-to-Heart Connections
• Being Discernment
• Compassion Without Emotional Attachment
• Transparent Communication
• Expanding Self-Love
• Acknowledging Reflections
• Synchronicity: Embracing “Positive” and “Negative”
• Tuning Into Soul’s Desire
• Divine Perfect Timing
• Experiences of unworthy vs. Worthy
• Being Inner Peace with Our Reflections
• Cell Phone Usage: Choosing to Unite Rather than Separate

Note: Thank you www.123greetings.com for image on right.

Being Present (In the Moment of Now and as a Loving Gift)

One day, while talking to my step-mom over the phone, I could sense her sadness in her story that she cleverly masked with humor.

She said that my little step-sister (in her late twenties) took her out to a Mother’s Day brunch. While enjoying her meal, my step-mom said to my sister with a smile, “Look over there Sara (made-up name)…that young woman is doing the same thing as you with her mother.”

My sister apparently nodded her head with a smile, and then proceeded to text her friend(s).

Throughout the majority of the meal, my sister was on her phone. I imagine it created an awkward situation for my step-mom, as she sat there trying to pretend as if everything was fine.

My heart went out to her. She deserved to be noticed, acknowledged, appreciated, celebrated and loved…not only on Mother’s Day, but every day.

A part of me was disappointed in my sister for being so insensitive and selfish. I felt like calling and talking to her about it; however, I knew that would place my step-mom in an uncomfortable position.

She’s fortunate to have a loving mother, and to be able to spend quality time with her—not everyone has that opportunity.

But when I dig deeper, I realize that my little sister can sometimes be like a kid playing a video game for hours on end (which many adults do as well)—consumed by the constant, artificial stimulation and instant gratifications, and completely unaware and uninterested in actual meaningful bonding with other kids in the neighborhood.

Is this where our society is heading towards? Robot-like lifestyles with no feelings? I choose to believe that we’re more evolved than that, and we will all wake up from living within the illusions that keep us so small.

Grabbing Opportunities (continuing from above)

Since I had chosen not to talk to my sister about that day, during one of my phone calls with my sister (who lives far away), I created hypothetical scenarios and worked the point that I wanted to make into our conversation.

When it basically flew over her head, I let go of my unpreferred method of being indirect. Then, a miracle happened! My little sister started complaining about how her friends often don’t return her text messages and calls.

I immediately reminded her that she’s done that to me multiple times, so why not Be understanding (like I was to her) and realize that perhaps they, too, “didn’t get the message,” “must have accidentally deleted the message,” or “forgot about it.”

She then added that it seemed like her friends were starting to avoid her. So I suggested some reasons why that could be the case, to include my observations of people and their cell phones these days, and  the possibility that her friends may feel that she doesn’t appreciate their presence when they hang out.

My little sister got offended and said, “Are you suggesting that I’m not nice to my friends?”

I replied, “Sara, I don’t know how you treat your friends because I’ve never been present in your gatherings. I can only take your word for it.”

The conversation, that I ended, went in circles for awhile with my little sister unwilling to take any responsibility whatsoever for some of the ways she treats others.

We had a huge argument over a year ago, that included a “Fuck you and your emotional highs and lows!” and an exchange of heart-stabbing words like, “That’s why your kids don’t want to live with you!” after I was a little too blunt; I was just exhausted from going in circles as usual.

This interesting phone communication exchange started with a misunderstanding, which led to a series of passive-aggressive avoidance of future calls and messages (although we supposedly “made up”):

Sara: “So now I’m a fat chic?”

Bobbie: “That’s not what I said.”

The rest is another story in my unpublished, overly marinated post, “The Invaluable Birth to Earth Gifts.”

When my little sister and I started talking again months later, I found out that she had been on over 50 dates, and she was becoming very frustrated because none of them developed into anything meaningful. She said that all of her friends (also in late twenties) are married, and she felt as though she would spend the rest of her life alone.

It then occurred to me that my little sister’s so-called “mean” comments to me during our major argument a while back weren’t really aimed at me (with the exception of the comment about my kids, which she said was very low of her to say, and apologized).

Her comment to me, “You’re going to spend the rest of your life alone!” stemmed from her own deep beliefs about herself that she didn’t recognize as hers; but rather, she had projected onto me.

My sister and I went through another phase of separation, which I wrote about in “Facing the Unknown: An Examination of True Love.”

I learned that trying to continually help someone who chooses to be stuck in their comfort zone of pessimism and chronic complaining, rather than choosing to change within, is not benefiting either party.

Later, when my husband told me that she had posted on Facebook that she had lost her job, I wanted to contact her; however, I reminded myself not to bother her again, and that she can call when she’s ready to talk.

I love my little sister, and I choose to trust that Life will work itself out for the highest benefit of all souls. She is in good hands. I also believe that we will reunite in Divine perfect timing.

Heart-to-Heart Connections

In regards to cell phone usage, I believe my True Self whispered to me to Be an untroubled mind (observing and understanding rather than judging) and real peace (not allowing outer circumstances to affect my inner world).

I understand that we can sometimes be consumed by electronics these days. After all, they can be fascinating tools. But I thought, “There’s got to be a better way than the electronics taking over personal bonding opportunities.”

I believe the main purpose of a cell phone is to allow us to communicate more effectively with other people. However, if being continuously glued to one’s cell phone doesn’t exactly fulfill that purpose, then what exactly is it doing?

Perhaps it provides one with constant mental stimulation. But what about emotional stimulation? What happened to personally connecting with others from the depths of our hearts?

There’s nothing “wrong” for being mesmerized by modern technology. On the other hand, if we wish to enjoy the Moment of Now with only our dear cell phones, why not just hang out with ourselves?

After all, solitude is highly nourishing for one’s soul. Sometimes, it’s mistaken for so-called “loners,” but that’s far from the truth.

There’s a difference between those who are passive and/or shy, and those who are introverts. Introverts have great social skills, and have the ability to Be outgoing.

However, they just prefer to spend some time alone because they enjoy their own company, they are aware of the importance of some solitude time, and/or they are very confident with being alone, as well as being seen alone in public.

The reason being…introverts usually realize that they’re really not alone; their Number Uno Companion—their True Self/Soul/God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That Is—is always and forever with them.

If we can’t even enjoy our own company, we can’t expect others to as well. It all goes back to self-love/loving oneself unconditionally in order to be able to fully love others unconditionally.

Why invite others into our space, when we’re clearly not interested in their presence, let alone appreciating them? Do we just like the idea of others’ company while eating out so that we don’t appear to outsiders as so-called loners?

Perhaps we should take a moment to check ourselves. What are our intentions when we go out to spend “quality” time with others, but yet, we ignore them the majority of the time? What kind of message are we sending them? 

Maybe a message like…

” You don’t really matter.” or…

“Can you scoot to the left a bit so that you can block the glare coming through the window?” or…

“Thank you for being my wallpaper” or…

“Let’s pretend that your my servant. Just standby. When I need something…be ready to deliver right away…and I mean PRONTO buddy” or even…

“Do me a favor, will ya? Smile a little more—there you go…show some teeth—and act as if you’re having an amazing time, even while I’m completely ignoring you. That way…it appears as though you’re basking in my glowing presence.” 

What does it take to get us off our phones for a second in order to fully enjoy and appreciate the Moment of Now where the real magic happens…like looking into the eyes of a soul brother or sister and experiencing unconditional love?

Do we really want to be in a situation where we find ourselves drowning in regret? Do we seriously want to end up making statements like, “I wish I would’ve spent more quality time with my ____ (i.e., mother, father, sister, brother, relative, friend, etc.) while he/she was still alive”?

Whenever my husband and I go out to eat at a restaurant, I see people sitting at their tables with their family and/or friends, and there are those whose eyes never seem to leave their phones, while there are the few others who seem to sit there looking so lonely.

Being Discernment

Once, my husband introduced me to an older lady and her much older husband, which I started writing about in my post, “The Reflections of the Empty Mansion Within.”

Our first meeting was very unique, interesting, somewhat challenging (Being True Self—deep understanding, empathy, compassion, truth, harmony, peace, joy/humor and unconditional love energies within a couple’s fiery and very personal argument) and inspiring (depending on one’s perspective).

At that first gathering, the older lady, Mona (made-up name) shared with me her very personal stories (e.g., her gay son) and heart-breaking stories (about her marriage) while her and I were briefly alone (as she gave me a tour of the mansion-like house).

She said that her husband, Tom (made-up name), was often verbally and emotionally abusive, and that the only reason she was staying with him is because she understands that he says and does unloving things at times because he had been abused throughout his childhood.

Sometimes, Life has its ironic surprises. For instance, the so-called “bad guy” may not turn out so bad after all, and the so-called “victim” may not always be the case. I also know from personal experiences because I had played both roles throughout my life.

But actions definitely speak volumes over shiny words, and Tom’s actions seemed nothing but observant, aware, kind, honest, loving, courteous, thoughtful, giving, and genuine (in his emotional expressions, tone and body language—like deep, eye contact).

Mona also mentioned that she was very lonely, although she had so much material wealth and most of her so-called friends (who only seemed to be interested in her status), and that she wished for us to be “best friends.”

I agreed, since she seemed like a gentle, thoughtful and generous soul (who only wanted to be loved), although I took the “best” friend comment with a grain of salt since we had just met.

Mona and Tom invited us to celebrate New Year’s Eve with them, so we happily agreed. To make a long story short (since the wonderful experiences will be in the post mentioned above), Mona surprisingly spent the majority of our time there on her larger than usual cell phone.

Another female guest went upstairs to the game room to play pool with her kids, and another lady (Mona’s actual best friend who was temporarily living with them) disappeared for a while.

So I sat there in the kitchen, on a long, L-shaped bar-like table (on the opposite side of Mona), just admiring the interior of the house.

However, after some time, I started feeling a bit awkward just sitting there noticing Mona still on her phone. A part of me wished at that moment that I had brought my little phone that has the basics (that most would consider “dinky” these days).

I don’t mind because I don’t need or want anything fancy or complicated right now. If I happen to one day…then I’ll choose to buy one.

The thought crossed my mind to leave, but I looked over at the dining room table, and I noticed that Tom was being such a great host, talking to the male guests (to include my husband). They seemed to be having a great time with their male bonding…joking around and telling each other stories.

I then started experiencing confusion. Why would Mona say things like—she wants to be best friends, she’s lonely, she wants to spend quality time together, especially on a major holiday like New Year’s Eve, etc.; but yet, her actions showed just the opposite?

I wondered what her intentions were, but I sensed that she would completely deny everything if I brought it up to her, due to experiences right before that moment. I then started slipping into judgmental mode.

I was flabbergasted because I couldn’t imagine myself totally ignoring a guest’s presence, especially for such a long period. I don’t even think anyone could pay me to treat someone like that.

I just had a hard time understanding her. I even thought, at her old age, how could she be so unaware of her surroundings?

Perhaps she didn’t truly care for company, and just wanted to show off her elaborate buffet setting (which she very meticulously created even after my husband and I arrived, and we weren’t able to eat until later that night), and take group pictures at a so-called party so that she could post them onto Facebook (like she did).

Perhaps she was still irritated with me because one out of the dozen group pictures that I took, using her phone, came out a little blurry?

When it occurred to me that I was struggling with enjoying the Moment of Now, I decided to talk to my True Self silently, and even use my imagination to Be at a happy and peaceful place.

I believe my True Self reminded me to Be Deep Understanding and Empathy…that perhaps Mona wasn’t in a loving/giving mood because she didn’t believe that she had it within her/that she is in essence Unconditional Love. After all, we can’t give what we believe we don’t have.

Perhaps Mona was missing her grown-up kids, who mostly lived in other states, and wanted to continuously check their status on Facebook, or some other social media.

Perhaps she lacked confidence in being a good hostess (due to her lack of social skills), although she was very generous with offering and sharing food other times.

I do recall noticing Mona stare at me intently before she ignored me for a while, as one of the other guests/ladies (Carina) was excitedly telling me her personal stories.

At that moment, I felt awkward, because I felt as though I was taking Mona’s spotlight away, and that wasn’t my intention. I was merely listening to and enjoying Carina’s story (who approached me while I was chatting with her kids at the bar table).

I was also surprised that Carina was sharing such intimate details with me (to include her gay brother, which some people are careful about bringing up—especially to strangers–due to fear of being judged), because it was the first time we had ever met (one of my husband’s team members).

However, no matter how many times it happens, I’m finally owning and still highly appreciating the fact that I somehow draw so-called strangers to me, who usually go straight into pouring their hearts to me, sometimes…even while I’m waiting at the doctor’s office for my appointment.

I believe it has to do with feeling completely comfortable with another. When we sense that another is not judgmental, we have a tendency to open up to them…sometimes to the point that we feel that we completely trust them.

It’s like a reuniting of souls, whom our physical minds may not be able to recognize.

At that moment where I noticed Mona’s stare, which was more than likely some degree of jealousy, I chose not to shrink my authentic True Self just because it made another feel insecure about themselves. I learned that from the quote on poster on right-hand side.

I love making others feel special at gatherings, and if others can’t handle that (due to their own lack of self-confidence), then so be it. They can sit back, observe and learn (which stems from positive, loving energies)…or not learn and just be jealous (which stems from fear energies).

Even back-in-the-day, at karaoke rooms (oh you know us Asians love some karaoke), I used to notice the shy folks sitting quietly at the back of the room, while the mic hoggers would sing away at the top of their lungs…totally insensitive to their “invisible” friends/coworkers.

I would convince the shy, gentle soul(s) to pick their favorite song that they would like to explore at least once, and then be an ass to the hoggers by saying something like, “Man, give me that damn mic! You must have lost your mind…singing like there’s no tomorrow”( in a joking tone). 

I would be grateful that I followed my heart, because I received some forms of “Thank you” practically every time it happened, from the ones who had a chance to Be in the spotlight for a change.

Because deep down inside, that nervous soul is dying to sing aloud, even though their ego self may tell them that it would much rather listen to 3-inch nails scraping down a dry-ass chalkboard.

I know…because I was once that shy soul who wasn’t confident in her singing ability; but yet, a thoughtful soul gave me the opportunity to Be a free-spirit, and it felt so liberating! 🙂

My True Self also reminded me that one of Mona’s grown kids (her son), who lives in our city, cancelled the last minute, and told Mona that him and his family of three prefer spending New Year’s Eve out in town.

Although I tried to cheer her up by jokingly add, “Oh you know how young people can be…they want to PARteh where all the action is on New Year’s Eve. I remember when I was in my twenties, and how much I got excited about going to a club or bar on such occasions.” She reluctantly agreed with a half-smile.

Anyhoo, as I sat there in my own little world, I suddenly heard Tom approach Mona (who was still on her phone) and say to her in a disapproving tone, “What are you doing?”

Mona then suggested that we (her and I) head to the living room and talk. It didn’t feel so good knowing that Mona now felt obligated to entertain me. The other ladies joined us after a few minutes.

To my surprise, my husband approached me shortly afterwards and suggested that we go home, rather than stay until midnight. He continued that our dog might be scared being alone, due to the thunderstorm that had just started.

My dog, Kami (pronounced tommy with a K; means spirit of nature in Japanese) is a puppy-like Siberian Husky (pics in “bobbie in a nutshell” category of my blog)—a very social creature who misses his “pack” when we’re briefly away.

And unlike some guard dogs (e.g., German Shepherds, Pit Bulls, Rottweilers, etc.), who would scare the living crap out of anyone who dared to break into someone else’s home, Kami would probably lick a thief while wagging his bushy spiral tail, after initially barking a few times.

One time, in the middle of the night, during an intensive thunderstorm, Kami rushed over to me because it had startled him. I comforted my baby, and we went back to bed. 

Anyhoo, I agreed with my husband to go home right away, and I thanked God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That Is within me for the “saved by the bell” moment.

Compassion Without Emotional Attachment (continuing from above)

Mona called, about a week after the New Year’s Eve gathering, and wanted to hang out again. I was going to make some lame excuse, but I believe my True Self reminded me to Be my authentic Self; so I told her the truth.

I let her know that perhaps next time we could hang out since I wasn’t feeling it that day. She said she understood.

She called again within a week or so, and told me how lonely she was again. So I made plans with her to go to one of her girlfriends house to eat lunch, and then to drive around and check out some places she wanted to see.

That night (the day before our meeting), she texted me and asked if we could just have lunch near my husband’s office (since they were his clients), and to ensure my husband was present as well, since she had some questions to ask him.

My husband said that he wouldn’t be ale to make it due to his schedule, and that he had already informed her a few days ago that he and his team would come by their home that week.

My husband also mentioned to me that he wasn’t pleased that she had basically cancelled plans with me in an indirect and sly manner, without even providing a courteous explanation to our initial plan.

I informed her that he wasn’t able to go (and also reminded her of their already set meeting that week), and then politely declined hanging out with her as well.

She replied saying that she understood, along with the typical “Lol” that I noticed some people (like my little step-sister) often use no matter what’s being said.

UPDATE: Mona texted and suggested we hang out again. Although I wasn’t exactly jumping for joy upon receiving the message, I thanked my God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That Is within me for giving me the opportunity to Be my authentic True Self.

I expressed my truths to her in a respectful, honest and loving manner, that 1) the two of us had made plans before, and she basically cancelled the last minute without an explanation, 2) she was on her cell phone the majority of the time her and I were sitting alone at the kitchen bar table at her New Year’s Eve gathering, and 3) that I’m not feeling like hanging out again because I chose not to place myself in situations where I’m not appreciated. 

She asked if she could call me and talk, and I agreed. I’m grateful that we talked for almost two hours. Although I had previously acknowledged that she was an aspect of my Expanded Self (mirroring back to me both my light and shadow self), the actual, personal conversation brought it to life.

I once wondered how we could better integrate our soul—to include our ego self, shadow self and True Self—and I believe I received the answer I was seeking.

As I listened to her stories of what she was going through with her other relationships, and why she behaved the way she did,  I was able to deeply connect and relate to her, since I pretty much had most of the same issues (with different faces) before.

Mona had let go of her friends/business partners, that she had told me about at her New Year’s gathering, because they were trying to control her.

She had also recently asked her friend to move out, whom she allowed to live in her home to temporarily help her out. Ever since I found out about the arrangement, I had a strong feeling that it wouldn’t work out since it’s even challenging to live with one’s own family members sometimes.

Plus, I had sensed some friction between the two of them at the New Year’s Eve gathering, although her friend seemed genuinely friendly, gentle and thoughtful.

Mona claimed that her friend supposedly started being disrespectful, controlling and emotionally abusive—continually making Mona feel guilty for not being a religious Christian, and making indirect comments insinuating that she’s better than Mona because she attends church, reads the bible religiously and prays a lot.

Mona then asked, “Isn’t it more important that you live with Jesus in your heart?” I agreed, and explained to her that’s why Jesus taught that the Kingdom of Heaven/God is within us and all around us.

I also shared with her that I believe that anyone can have Christ Consciousness, something I had learned from Spirituality, where there are many paths to God, and that one wasn’t better than another.

Hopefully, Mona was able to forgive her friend for being “inconsiderate” (her adjective) to her when it occurred to Mona in the middle of her telling me one of her stories that she had unintentionally treated me in an inconsiderate manner at her gathering.

She apologized and said that she couldn’t believe that she had treated me that way. She then proceeded to give back-to-back reasons as to why she was on the phone, to include blaming Carina.

I politely stopped her, and told her that situations like that happens; however, when it becomes habitual, then there’s no need to continue the unhealthy relationship. She agreed.

I was also able to present different perspectives (through deeper understanding, empathy, compassion, forgiveness, acceptance, embrace and unconditional love) to her problems in order to help heal judgmental thoughts, as well as feelings of doubt, guilt, sadness, anger, and suffering.

For instance, Mona mentioned that she thought her friend/former roommate was strange. I asked her to elaborate, and she continued that her friend sometimes used to walk around singing in the house.

I told her that her friend is probably just free-spirited. She then added that her husband thinks so as well. I then told her that I sing around the house sometimes as well. She said that was different, and I disagreed, which pretty much ended that topic.

As we shared our new beliefs and healthy boundaries regarding friendships and relationships, to include self-love, I believe we created peace between us, and possibly the potential for a friendship. We’ll see.

Although we made plans to hang out the next week, I noticed throughout the rest of the day that my feelings weren’t matching my decision. I thought, “Did I not forgive her for her inconsiderate actions?”

It then occurred to me that my agreement to hang out with her again stemmed from feeling sorry for her (for being lonely), and because she seemed like a nice lady, not because I was excited to hang out with her.

I learned from Bashar (channeled through Darryl Anka) that following one’s path of excitement shows that we’re in alignment with our soul’s wishes.

Although I chose to Be compassion with Mona by listening to her stories and offering other perspectives, I didn’t highly resonate with her to the point that I wished to form a true friendship with her.

Mona’s idea of hanging out was going out to watch a movie, shopping at the mall, eating out at a restaurant, etc. that I told her that I was no longer interested in, although once in a while would be fine.

I also had a gut feeling that the talks that she wanted to continue having would involve much judgments and gossip, which I worked on transmuting throughout the majority of our last phone conversation. 

I realized I was falling back into being compassion (with an emotional attachment) rather than just Being compassion without any emotional attachments.

I believe this was my soul’s way of reminding me to Be Self-Compassion and Self-Love, and to also trust that Life will work itself out in Divine perfect timing for everyone’s highest benefit and soul growth; hence, I didn’t have to feel obligated to “rescue” her.

So the next day, I texted Mona that if she and her husband thought that her former friend was strange in various ways, then she’s in for a big surprise…because I’m more than likely considered “very strange” within the majority of society’s eyes, due to my unconventional beliefs and ways.

After sharing that thought, that came up the morning after our conversation, I felt a huge load off my back. I added that I wanted to ensure that I’m not starting another friendship that involves a lot of judgment of others.

I also informed Mona that I respect her choice to honor her feelings about letting go of her former friend who lived with her, and that I, too, choose to honor my feelings about not wanting to hang out anytime soon; perhaps some other time.

I was grateful that she replied that she respects my feelings, whether or not she meant it. We texted each other to “take care and God bless.” 

It would seem nice if all of our current relationships could harmoniously work out this way; but I’m working on creating a solid and deep belief that EVERYTHING happens in Divine perfect timing for every soul’s highest good.

With that said, there’s no need for resistance by trying to convince others of anything since everyone goes through their soul growth at their own pace. By letting go and letting God, we’re able to just go with the flow.

I had a friend, who I met in a class, who also reflected my light and shadow self, but our fairly new friendship didn’t last. 

Once, I explained to her that I had recently learned about loving oneself unconditionally (and that it helps us to fully love others unconditionally), and she impatiently cut me off and snapped, “Well, I’m not that type of person. I don’t like to be rude to others.” 

At that moment, I thought I had suddenly shifted into another conversation from a parallel reality. Luckily, the moment of being dazed and confused was very brief, unlike another experience I had with her which I plan on writing about in a post called, “My Reflections at One Crazy-Ass BBQ.”

Anyhoo, even though I explained to her that selfishness is different from self-love, our conversations and experiences together seemed to always end in some type of misunderstanding.

When I realized that it just didn’t feel good hanging out together anymore because the so-called misunderstandings became habitual and exhausting, I just let her go. And in turn, I set myself free.

I believe the more I work on changing within, I will tune into a more positive reality (to include more “positive” relationships), that reflects my inner world, in Divine perfect timing.

Transparent Communication

I strongly sense whenever the additional “Lol” isn’t genuine (i.e., there’s no presence of positive emotions in their message, let alone them actually “laughing out loud”).

I suppose some people use it often in order to sound “friendly” to others, although it doesn’t match their intention; but to me, it seems to make one question the sincerity and honesty of the other person when it’s overused.

However, when I dig deeper, I understand that some people may overly use “Lol” to help alleviate their own uneasiness.

I suppose I developed some skepticism about such deceptive actions because of my own personal experiences. Once, I shared my thoughts and feelings with my oldest step-brother in regards to what I had observed over some time.

Ever since he went through his second divorce (because his wife supposedly accused him of cheating, although he swore up and down that he didn’t, despite text message evidence) and then shortly afterwards had a minor heart-attack, he had some time alone and some time to talk.

I believe some solitude will be good for his soul. Strangely, prior to all the drama in his life, I had a strong feeling that something was going to go south soon, and it did.

I told my brother that healthy venting every now and then was understandable, but it made me uncomfortable whenever he habitually talked bad about our other siblings because it made me wonder if he did the same with me.

I also mentioned that if he ever had a problem with me, that I would want him to talk to me rather than act as if everything’s fine…when it’s really not.

I also added that it was challenging to trust his very friendly demeanor and his “Lol’s” at times because I’ve noticed that he’s habitually super-friendly/buddy-buddy/jokey-jokey with others (especially our siblings); but yet, when they’re not around, he talks really bad about them.

My oldest, Caucasian brother (from my dad’s first marriage—the one who adopted and raised me) pretty much denied that he ever talks bad about me behind my back, which I strongly sensed wasn’t true.

In my mind, if he isn’t hesitant about being disloyal to his full-blooded younger brother and older sister, and his younger half-sister (my little step-sister from my dad’s 3rd marriage), then why would he be willing to be loyal to me (his non-blood-related Japorean step-sister)?

Or, perhaps that was my narrow-minded thinking to think that blood relations are stronger than non-blood relations. After all, there are people whom I love deeply and dearly, even though they’re not blood-related.

Anyway, ever since that conversation, he didn’t return my two phone calls and text messages. So I decided to let him go, although we had reunited ever since our dad passed away. I trust that we will reconnect in Divine perfect timing.

Self-empowering words of wisdom such as the following quoted paragraphs helps me to get through emotionally challenging situations like these (http://lightworkers.org/blog/193077/grab-your-emotional-star-power):

Now you are worried you will offend or lose someone dear to you. If that someone or something is part of your feeling less than a shining star, it is time to let go – emotionally, even physically if that is appropriate.

Does that mean you will leave your job, spouse or community? Perhaps. But this is an emotional shift, so it is more likely you will speak your truth – and if those you address do not wish to honor that truth, your relationship will change.

You will begin acting like a star even in your 3D world. For you will know deep within you that you have finally kissed the Prince, you, and your new role is beckoning – that of a new earth star. So be it. Amen.

Expanding Self-Love

Looking back, I noticed another major change. I used to feel obligated to remain in relationships (to include friendships) that didn’t serve anyone’s soul growth.

I used to get sucked into people’s sad stories and chronic complaints because of my desire to be of some relief to their suffering.

However, the greatest lesson I’ve learned (and continuing to remember) from those wonderful, disguised blessings…is self-love.

By continually being there for others who didn’t even appreciate my presence and friendship, I failed to respect, empathize with (my inner child/soul), have compassion for, forgive, accept, embrace and love myself unconditionally.

Now, unhealthy friendships and other relationships that used to last years, ends within months or even weeks. Soon, I believe I will be able to instantly and intuitively sense what doesn’t serve my soul growth. It’s all about progress/soul evolution. 🙂

I now set healthy boundaries in my relationships, regardless of who it is. I choose to continue working on embracing self love. Because until we fully love ourselves unconditionally…we can’t fully love others unconditionally.

Acknowledging Reflections

They say it’s better to be alone than be with someone who makes you feel alone. I still haven’t figured out who “they” is, but I agree with them.

As I’m typing this, I’m reminded that our outer reality reflects both the “positive”/Yang and “negative”/Yin energies within us, which allow to better understand and know all aspects of ourselves—ego self, shadow self, Higher Self, True Self/God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That is/Multidimensional Self/Expanded Self/Source/GOD-Self—at a profound level.

With that said, I accept that all the stories above (part of my outer reality) are merely reflecting my inner reality. So it would behoove me to closely examine what’s going on within me that my ego self has repressed, suppressed, judged, ignored, criticized, dismissed, and/or rejected all these years, due to wanting me to be “accepted” and “approved” by society, and to save the little of my self image that remains in my physical world.

First of all, Mona and Tom’s situation is somewhat similar to what me and my husband’s marriage was like. My husband and I had a roller coaster marriage throughout the majority of our relationship (our second marriage).

We both experienced the “good,” “bad,” and “ugly” aspects of ourselves. We almost got into a divorce a couple of times as well.

I understand that it’s challenging when two wounded souls, who came from broken homes/wounded parents, come together and try to make sense of life and love, especially unconditional love (that we believed we hadn’t received).

I believe a consolidated effort of individual counseling, group counseling (women’s PTSD group/just for me) and marriage counseling helped improve our marriage. However, I believe the greatest influence has been my gradual change within myself.

Because the more we discover our True Selves, the more we remember that we are the Unconditional Love that we’d been yearning for and searching for all of our lives. It was deep within us all this time.

Synchronicity: Embracing “Positive” and “Negative”

I also noticed that the more I change within, the more my outer reality reflects my changes. Sometimes, those changes seem to appear bleak, lacking, and even dark at a quick glance with my physical eyes.

However, when I choose to Be my True Self, and see with clarity and through the eyes of Universal Love, all I ever see is Divine perfection—whether so-called “positive” or “negative.”

While reading an article (http://www.openhandweb.org/The_incredible_Joy_of_Multidimensionality), I noticed a video that was included, that had a total time of 13:13, which I found interesting because I had been experiencing a series of number synchronicities, to include 11:11,12:12 and 13:13; and recently, frequently appearing palindrome number synchronicities (e.g., 12:21, 7:17, 9:09, etc).

So I followed my intuition, and checked it out (which I don’t often do). The video, “Openhand: Synchronicity Speaks” inspired me so deeply that I even created a new post (“Soul-Touching Wisdom and Music”) that introduced it, along with my two cents.

The following is just a sweet taste of the above article (a kind reply to one of the readers):

The key to Multidimensionality

14 September, 2013 – 05:38 — Open

I’ve learned from some great, spiritual teachers/healers (to include one of my favorites—Bashar, channeled through Darryl Anka) that we give meaning to our life happenings, not the other way around.

Tuning Into Soul’s Desire

I went to a Spirituality festival for the first time recently (which I had been looking forward to with great excitement), and met a wonderful spiritual teacher/healer named Bill Foss.

The only other human being I had ever met in person, whom I considered a spiritual teacher/healer at the time, was my older sister-like, Korean neighbor in Okinawa.

I wrote about amazing and beautiful her in my blog, to include one of my oldest posts “Inspiration,” and more newer ones like, “Choosing to See Through the Eyes of Universal Love,” and “Embracing A Setback to Set Forward.”

I now realize that every soul we cross paths with is our spiritual teacher/healer, although they may not appear to be so to our physical eyes.

Whether we’re playing the role of “bad” guy or “good” gal at whatever moment, I believe it’s all perfectly and Divinely orchestrated in order to ultimately serve the highest good of ALL/our collective soul evolution.

As we all help one another to remember who we truly are, we grow closer and closer together…reuniting, experiencing bliss/Heaven on Earth as “spiritual beings having a human experience,” and eventually returning to All That Is when all is said and done.

Anyhoo, although Bill and I  had a brief conversation, I was moved by his genuine, sparkling presence and words of wisdom. I even bought his book, “The Secrets of Spiritual Success,” after receiving an overview, followed by me asking some questions.

After our conversation, Bill said in a joking and excited manner that he believed the book was written for me.

I knew what he meant, because I had learned from Neale Donald Walsch, and other spiritual teachers, that we—as our True Self/Soul/God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That Is—send ourselves experiences for our soul growth/evolution.

However, I chose to Be humorous as well and replied with a serious expression, “Is that what you tell everyone who buys your book?” We both chuckled.

Kind-hearted Bill even offered to sign my book with a nice comment. I asked him to make it out to Bobbie rather than Barbara because my nickname is more personal to me (close family and friends have always called me Bobbie).

I have a gut feeling that his entire book is Amazing. 🙂  So far, it’s soul-touching and written with much eloquence, honesty, true feelings, profound wisdom, and beautiful artwork (his own).

I trust that we will cross paths again in Divine perfect timing; I hope so. I love crossing paths with such loving and bright souls.

Divine Perfect Timing

When we trust that everything happens in Divine perfect timing for our soul growth/evolution, then we’re able to embrace all aspects of All That Is…unconditionally accepting what is in every Moment of Now, and unconditionally loving all of Life that shows up.

For instance, I learned the following example (not verbatim) about how we give meaning to life’s happenings, from Mr. Morty Lefkoe’s teachings (and free method at  http://www.recreateyourlife.com/ which was recommended by http://www.stevepavlina.com/, another very helpful website) about releasing limiting beliefs that no longer serve our soul growth:

Experiences of unworthy vs. Worthy

Note: The day after I published this post, I saw two shows from Oprah’s Lifeclass (for the first time) because I wondered if they could provide me any additional information that I could learn about myself, and finally heal in this area of my life so that I can fully experience Being Self-Worth (since I, too, am a “daddylessdaughter”—my biological father abandoned me as a baby, and my father who adopted me was hardly around).

I was very grateful to God, Goddess and Divine Spirit/All That Is within me for sending me this experience which was very helpful—eye and heart opening/healing. I love the phrase, “Daddy GONE!” that they suggest using.

My two cents to these shows: I’m currently working on embracing and integrating all aspects of myself/soul/physical being (to include ego self mentioned in the show, as well as my shadow self and True Self) rather than treat my ego self as an enemy, since  it is just a fearful (unaware/forgotten) aspect of ourselves who is merely trying to help us to survive in this physical world and be accepted and approved by society.

I believe, in order to truly and fully love ourselves unconditionally (and Be our full potential Self), we must be able to have compassion for, forgive, accept, embrace and unconditionally love the ALL of ourselves (the “good,” “bad,” and “ugly) as One, healed and complete Being, rather than continually experience the duality of “angel” vs “devil” on one’s shoulder and blame and/or condemn “ego self.”

• Oprah’s Lifeclass: Daddyless Daughters, Part 1 (<= click title to view in another window; they more than likely show re-runs)
• Class Notes: Daddyless Daughters, Part 2

At the Spirituality festival mentioned above, Bill (the amazing author/healer/teacher/artist) also mentioned that he provides a service/a journey to access one’s akashic records, in order to improve one’s quality of Being and way of life.

The idea instantly excited me, which was a sign that it’s in alignment with my Soul (first learned from Bashar, channeled through Darryl Anka). However, I didn’t fully express my feelings of joy outwardly, due to my hesitation to immediately accept his service.

I’ve been noticing vivid and extraordinary dreams since 2001, and much more in the past two plus years now.

In my dreams, I’ve experienced time traveling (past and future/even seeing younger and older versions of people I currently know), parallel realities (from my current life situations), my past lives, seeing and even interacting with family members and relatives who have passed away, various aliens, creatures from other dimensions (to include “dark” and “Light” Beings, animals and insects I’ve never seen before, a cartoon character, etc), foreign places (e.g., a beautiful place with very bright and colorful flowers the size of me), etc.

So yes! 🙂 I whole-heartedly believe in the existence of the akashic records, and that everyone (who’s willing and chooses to believe from their hearts) has the potential to access them.

However, since I’m still working on re-patterning my old and outdated belief systems that no longer serve my soul growth (via Arcturian Sacred Geometry meditations and the repetition of positive affirmations), and remembering to Be prosperity consciousness (as opposed to my society-conditioned poverty consciousness), I decided not to follow my path of joy and passion. =(

I mainly didn’t want to make my husband uncomfortable by spending our money on things that he more than likely wouldn’t consider “necessary” or “needed” or even “beneficial” since he isn’t exactly passionate about Spirituality, mysticism, religions, or anything else that has to do with better understanding, connecting, communicating, communing and getting to know any aspect of Divinity.

However, upon returning from the festival, I expressed my thoughts and feelings to him. I informed him that I plan on absolutely following what excites me and my soul next time. He said he agreed.

After all, after thinking about it, I don’t believe that my husband buying cigarettes is “necessary” or “needed” or even “beneficial.”

However, he still insists on spending our money on it, so why should I feel guilty about spending our money that I believe serves my soul growth?  We had a similar discussion before, and he thought about it, and then said he understood and agreed.

I also informed him recently that although he doesn’t believe that purified water is any different from faucet water (despite facts), what matters is that I believe there’s a difference.

Plus, I do not resonate with drinking unpurified water; I can sense the chemicals, just as I can sense chemicals in certain foods (more so recently).

I even changed out my jar of spicy, yellow peppers to a brand that uses natural ingredients. I noticed that reading a paragraph filled with a majority of ingredients that I’ve never even heard of before (that sounds like it should be part of a science experiment) doesn’t quite sit well with me anymore. 

I think a lot of companies just assume that most people won’t bother to take a moment to read what they plan on putting into their bodies/their one and only precious, physical vehicle.

Before, my husband and I used to just buy whatever we felt like when we went grocery shopping, to include a lot of junk food. We also worked against ourselves to maintain our weight.

We usually ended up throwing away some of the food, and the other stuff (like processed, canned foods) just collected dust and took up space in our cabinets.

However, ever since I started going through some major changes, on all levels of my Being (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual), in the past three years, we started shopping smarter and working for our bodies rather than against it.

We started buying mostly fresh fruits (especially the low-sugar and highly nutritional grapefruits, oranges, bananas, apples, tomatoes, and various berries), vegetables (especially greens—not iceberg lettuce, sweet potatoes, carrots, peppers, onions, garlic, spinach, etc.), nuts, seeds (like pumpkin seeds), dried fruit, fish (for me only; salmon, mackerel and tilapia are a few of my favorites), as well as some eggs and meat. Granted, we still treat ourselves to whatever we strongly crave for every now and then.

Shopping smarter not only cut down our grocery bill in half, but we hardly let anything go to waste, and it just feels SO MUCH better, lighter and freer.

I believe that what we decide to drink and eat correlates with our deep belief of self-worth—ranging from very high to very low self-worth).

I noticed that those who have high self-esteems/those who highly value themselves, treat their precious bodies like temples, and absolutely refuse to drink and eat anything that may not benefit or cause harm to them. I highly respect and admire such souls, and I strive to become like them one day soon.

I’m still working on remembering, realizing and fulling owning my self-worth (part of loving myself unconditionally), so I trust that I will one day fully treat my body as a precious temple that it is, as well as my entire emotional, mental and spiritual Being.

I did some research that shows studies that prove that mandated fluoride in our local water system isn’t the same type of fluoride that benefits our body (as it’s claimed to be).

Plus, the fluoride (and other chemicals) in our local water is known to calcify/harden our precious pineal glands, which (when decalcified and activated) was designed to help us better connect with Divinity.

If you’d like, you can check out the article by clicking on title => The Spiritual Eye: How to Decalcify & Activate Your Pineal Gland, or do your own research and find information that highly resonates with you.

 I even believe the Arcturians, who mentioned in the book, “We, The Arcturians” that foods such as sugar, flour and meat can lower our vibrational frequencies. 

Although I’m still working on releasing some of my lingering old habits (e.g., consuming sugar, meat, coffee, etc.) that apparently no longer positively serves my soul growth (to include raising my vibrational frequency to the highest and maintaining it for as long as I can, and expanding my consciousness), I believe it’s better to get the ball rolling than to never start at all; it’s all about progress at our own pace.

However, I also believe part of our soul growth is to experience in the physical whatever highly resonates with our souls in every Moment of Now.

So if choosing to eat a juicy, tender, aged, perfectly seasoned, medium-rare Ribeye steak highly resonates with me and my soul at the moment (because of the sheer, enjoyable experience)…then so be it! I will listen to my strong, body signals that is in harmony with my heart.

As long as we’re not habitually eating such things (I exaggerated them to make a point) as a bag of candy, half a cake, a dozen cookies, back-to-back fast food, bottles of sodas, a case/bottles/box of alcohol, 5 cups of extra-strength coffee, 3 energy drinks, an entire loaf of french bread with a stick of pure butter (ooh..tough one), etc. because we believe we need them, because we’re addicted to them (food controlling us), because they’re comfort food, or because we’re bored, etc.

Why not have “treat” days (not “cheat” days) when and if we have strong cravings, but overall start drinking and eating healthy. 

Anyhoo, I believe in what the Pleiadians recommend—that drinking lots of purified water improves our overall well-being, as well as our connections to our Family of Light.

Yes, that statement may sound unconventional, controversial and even spooky “CRAzy,” ; but what’s CRAZY to me (and more than likely to many, many others out there)…is the overall state of our world with its:

• ongoing wars (to include so-called “holy” wars back in the day, local gang-related wars, national battles/wars, and international wars) throughout the centuries
• shootings at schools (that can be easily prevented by using solutions that worked for countries like Australia)
• how a tiny fraction of our planet’s population owns the majority of wealth and power
• how the majority of the population continually struggles with lack of abundance (in its many forms)
• how major athletes get paid WAY more than the ALSO very hard-working and dedicated souls (just to give some examples)…

1. teachers (who teach and help mold our children)
2. day-care providers (who care for and protect our children)
3. doctors, nurses, and other medical professions (who care for patients and work long, strenuous hours)
4. spiritual teachers/healers (who help heal the soul, which is priceless)
5. military members (who often work their asses off, sometimes  up to 15 hours a day on a daily basis, often sacrifice quality time with their loved ones—especially if deployed, work under highly demanding and stressful environments…some of whom become severely injured—mentally, emotionally and/or physically—and even risk their lives on a daily basis under extreme, hazardous and life-threatening conditions)

• how the government doesn’t take care of some of its own, who sacrificed themselves for their country (i.e., Vietnam veterans suffering severe PTSD/Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and still not receiving care)
• the continuous judging, ridiculing, criticizing, discriminating, back-stabbing, neglecting, abusing (verbal, emotional, physical, and sexual), hating, condemning, hurting, murdering and torturing of one another, ETC.

What truly matters is what resonates with our souls, regardless of how “crazy” the new information sounds at first…it’s about what makes us deeply feel the truth, peace, love, joy, and freedom within ourselves. 

Throughout history, there have been numerous people who have introduced new information/Light to the general population (who lived with much fear/lack of information/darkness), to include the world not being flat, EVERYTHING being made of energy/E = mc2 (2=squared), that things actually exist outside our basic, five senses (e.g., bees can see ultraviolet light, bats can sense infrared light, dogs can hear frequencies that humans aren’t able to hear, etc.; so yes, psychic abilities exist) and many other examples.

However, those minority of people were often judged, ridiculed, mocked, criticized, rejected, condemned, and even killed in unthinkable ways (i.e., slowly burned to the stake or even nailed to a cross).

But yet, when society later finds out that those few wise souls, who were way ahead of their time, were not only right, but were merely trying to help humanity…then they scratch their hard heads and sigh, “Ahhh…so it is true.”

The Ascended Master Jesus is a perfect example of an enlightened One who brought Love and Light to humanity, but wasn’t exactly embraced by the majority of society.

The people who thought Jesus (and other highly evolved beings) was “out of this world,” and therefore rejected him, would be equivalent to modern folks sayings things to (or about) geniuses, enlightened ones, Celestial Beings, highly evolved Beings, etc. like…

• “This joker has ssseriously gone CRAzy! What’s he going to do next? Walk on water?!”
• “I’m sorry…have you been properly diagnosed with a mental disorder?”
• “Ha! There’s no such thing as aliens!”
• “Look, man, God stopped communicating with human beings over 2000 years ago. Oh wait, I think he still communicates with priests since they’re way above and much more worthy than the average person.”
• “Angels only appeared long, long time ago to people throughout the world. They’re retired now, and are chillin’ out at the Bahamas or the Big Island…one of those tropical islands.”
• “If there are aliens…they’re all evil since they can’t be as good as humans.”
• “Oh she definitely forgot to take her medication!”
• “Dude, can I get some of whatever your high on?
• “Human Beings are hands down the most highly advanced civilization in our universe! DUH!! Isn’t it obvious by the way our world exists with it’s ongoing wars (that totally supports our freedom), lack of love and much cruelty to one another (so only the best and most worthy survive), lack of willingness to share abundant resources (to ensure the best and worthy have enough), and the way we abuse Mother Nature (who doesn’t mind anyway because it’s not like..uh…a living thing, right?). C’mon people…it’s a no brainer!”

The following is a quoted paragraph from the introductory section of the video, “The Pleiadian Message – A Wake Up Call For the Family of Light” (<= click on title to view in another window if you feel the urge to do so)

Professor Michio Kaku, a well-known theoretical physicist, stated the following, “Take a look at our galaxy. There are a hundred billion stars in our galaxy. Now, take a look at the galaxies of the Universe; we can actually count them. In the visible Universe, our telescopes have the range to see a hundred billion galaxies. Well, how many stars are there in a visible Universe? Count them. A hundred billion times a hundred billion. That is an astronomical number! You have to be supremely arrogant to believe that we are the only ones in town.”

Anyhoo, back to my personal story: I told my husband that what matters is that I believe there’s a difference, and I choose to buy a purifier for our fridge. I added that although it’s approximately $50 plus some change, we only have to change it out every six months, and that overall equates to spending less that all the sodas he buys and drinks on a weekly basis. He said he understood and agreed.

When I was married to my first husband (whom I’m in good terms with now, since he is a good person, we had two children together, and I respect and love him like a soul brother), and while I was in my third trimester with my first child, we almost got into an argument at the Commissary (military supermarket) because he became highly irritated when he noticed that I was bagging some apples (because he didn’t like fruits and vegetables).

I told him that even my doctor said that pregnant women should eat good servings of fruits and vegetables, and he replied, “Doctors don’t know what they’re talking about!” He sometimes said silly things like that (because of who he was highly influenced by growing up).

Although his statement was obviously riDONKulous, I put the apples back because I didn’t want to create a scene in public, or even start another argument…period.

My playing small (like the back-in-the-day submissive, Asian housewives) didn’t serve me then, and it definitely didn’t stem from my actual personality; but rather, it was due to my deep fear of getting a divorce (which my ex-husband was clearly aware of).

I didn’t want to become a statistic then, like the high percent of the world’s population divorce rate. But what impacted me the most was my parents getting a divorce three times —once with their first/ex-spouse or informal relationship (I was a so-called bastard child) and twice among themselves—basically getting divorced, getting back together after my mom agreed to help raise my little step-sister whom he had with his mistress/my now step-mom; and then getting divorced again.

Anyway, after stewing over the apple incident for a little while, my attitude was like, “This is some BULLshit!” So, the next time we went grocery shopping, I assertively told my ex-husband that I was going to eat whatever the hell I felt like eating for my babies and I. He surprisingly and gently agreed.

I told him that he had hurt my feelings, and that I heard that when wives are pregnant, husbands would treat them like queens—even voluntarily run to the grocery store in the middle of night so that they could satisfy their wife’s crazy-ass craving(s) (e.g., anchovy, peanut butter and pickle sandwich).

I then added, “And although I don’t have such cravings, is it so wrong to crave for an apple…which is healthy by the way?” I could tell by the look in his eyes that he felt bad. Ever since then, he supported my food choices , and even surprised me one day with a bag of my favorite snack, which he bought in the middle of the night.

I’m grateful that my first/ex-husband gave me an opportunity (the first stepping stone) to overcome one of my fears. I didn’t realize it then, but that’s why they say hindsight is 20/20.

But instead of having to always look back in order to see with clarity, my goal from now on is to be able to do so in every Moment of Now, especially with the help of shadow work.

Others are only capable of pushing our buttons, taking advantage of us/walking all over us, manipulating us or controlling us IF we allow them to.

We can’t expect others to respect us and treat us as worthy if we’re not even willing to Be self-respect and self-worth (something I learned in my late thirties/better late than never).

I obviously had very low self-esteem back then, which I’ve been working on improving over the years (to include a decade). I still have some lingering fears that I’m going to fully release soon.

My goal is to find balance when it comes to respecting and unconditionally accepting and loving myself and others.

Being Inner Peace with Our Reflections

Anyhoo, back to me acknowledging my precious reflections from my outer world/blessings from the Universe.

I once shared my thoughts and feelings with my husband and how he seemed to be on a piece of electronics (i.e., iphone, ipad, laptop, computer, and/or TV) from the moment he wakes up bright and early in the morning until right before he goes to bed.

Sometimes, he even uses them simultaneously (e.g., ipad while “watching” a TV show “with” me). I even joked about how he’s even on his iphone in bed before we turn off the lights.

One day, I told my husband something to the effect, “When we first met, you complained that your first wife was on the computer or phone every day and practically all day long. But now, it appears that you became the very being that you once judged.”

To my surprise, he received my statement well, although he claimed that they’re far apart from being in the same category.

Granted, even his three tween and teenage kids jokingly told us (while visiting) that their mother is still constantly on a piece of electronics, and the phone bill is usually sky high.

He always comes up with a reason, which is understandable. He’s become very tech savvy, and it’s due to his dedication, diligence and ambition to self-study, and I respect him for that (and I told him).

I’ve learned the hard way that nagging is ineffective, and I’m grateful that I’m finally coming to a place in my life where I let go of needing things or people to be a certain way.

When I decided to just do and Be my authentic, True Self to the best my ability at every Moment of Now (to include just unconditionally accept everything as they are in every Moment of Now), things started to change as a result of my changes within.

For instance, to my surprise, my husband started putting away his ipad if we happened to be watching a TV show or a movie from Redbox. He even playfully jokes around with me, and gets cuddly, before we fall asleep at night, rather than focus on his iphone and social media. I appreciate him being considerate.

Ever since I decided to just enjoy the view while my husband was driving, rather than nag at him for him using his phone while driving and/or being stressed out myself, I started noticing that he stopped using his iphone while driving.

Cell Phone Usage: Choosing to Unite Rather than Separate

I was so grateful that my husband stopped using his phone while driving, because ever since I heard some horrific stories about accidents that occurred due to cell phone uses, I didn’t support it. I even shared these stories with him.

My heart especially went out to the one couple who each lost a leg while driving a motorcycle because a teenage boy accidentally hit them while replying to his girlfriend’s text message.

What could one possibly say after taking someone’s ability to use one of their legs again? “Sorry I was texting while driving”? What would one say if they accidentally killed a child or children, or an entire family, while texting and driving? “Oops!”?

I don’t think we should be paranoid about these things, but we should definitely be more cognizant of how our careLESS actions could inconvenience and/or possibly harm and even kill others.

If we’re so busy texting or participating in some kind of social media while driving, or even parked at a light, hence, we barely make the green, left-turn signal…what does that do to the other 2-4 vehicles that could have joined that turn and be about their merry business?

How would we feel if we had to take a massive, loose dump, or wanted to meet someone by showing up a little early, but wasn’t able to because some jackass decided to screw around with his/her damn phone?

That driver might as well give us the finger while laughing his/her happy ass off screeching his/her car the last minute.  

Just saying…cell phone usage can be abused to the point that they separate us rather than unite us.

It’s something to briefly think about, and then choose to…

Be Balance.

The following daily e-mail message (from February 20, 2014) that I received from Neale Donald Walsch’s team during the week (that anyone can request), and I use as one of my guidance tools, inspired me to write this post, which includes some of the things that I’m very passionate about: