I shared the following message for vide, “STOP LETTING PEOPLE HURT YOU | Don’t Expect From Other | Mental Health | Sadhguru Speeches“:
Thank you so much for sharing this video that I watched TWICE back tresisto back—that I don’t think I’ve ever done with any YouTube video—and pondered upon, and even took screenshots to review at later time.
This invaluable message is one of the most helpful messages from Sadhguru that answered various questions to the repeating challenges I’ve had throughout my adult life.
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I deeply appreciate the profound wisdom within Sadhguru’s messages, and so much so for this particular one, that I will be revisiting it again and again until I fully integrate this into WHOLE self/Self.
Regarding “Because the very nature of the mind is such that ‘I don’t want to think about this person’ means, ‘that’s the only person I’m going to think about for the rest of my life'”: For almost two decades, I continued to [DELETED SINCE COMMENT TOO LONG (section below in same font color)]
sporadically cross paths with my first boyfriend—whom I was obviously deeply in love with even after we broke up in 1990—whether in person or via phone calls, mail, emails, and Facebook.
In 2008, I thought we finally communicated to one another via Facebook that we were happy for each other’s married lives, and went our separate ways (and I even ended deactivating fb shortly after).
However, starting 2011 (after I left Army life), after experiencing the 11:11 Phenomenon (Soul activation code), I then had what felt like a daily tsunami wave of many earthly and otherworldly dreams—to include many Earth parallel realities and alternate realities—that included many dreams of him.
It was like I was being haunted by this vicious cycle of many different versions of realities where he was breaking my heart over and over again.
I even made intentions to cut any energetic cords between us, but when it didn’t work, I later realized this was due to contradicting beliefs I had—one is that ALL of Life within this world and beyond is energetically connected (even proven by the most valid and precise science, Quantum Physics), and the other is wanting to disconnect to all Souls whom I never wanted to interact with ever again, to include dream state.
So it used to baffle me as to why this was happening. And thanks to Sadhguru’s version about the subject of resistance—though I’ve heard of similar teachings from other spiritual teachers—he confirmed what I had intuitively and strongly sensed not too long ago (within a year or so)—to LET GO of the resistance (i.e., of NOT wanting to even see my first boyfriend from high school ever again in dream state).
After making this decision I was no longer emotionally triggered by this repeating experience, to include internally shouting, “LEAVE ME the F@#$ ALONE!!!”
In addition, I realized that I was so blinded by a first and only love—because he had showed up during high school when I didn’t feel loved at home by my parents–that I amplified his positive qualities throughout the years, while dimming down his negative ones.
But the truth is, I deserved much better than him, since I caught him lying and cheating more than once (though we broke up and got back together at least twice).
So even though he had broken up with me—not only in this particular physical reality, but other parallel and alternate realities as well (in dream state)—these experiences were blessings in disguise.
They AMPLIFIED a DEFINITIE need to KNOW that I can do so much better; and moving forward, I can simply feel grateful for all the good memories I have of him (the way I can do for all other “negative” and “positive” Life experiences).
Sadhguru also helped me to understand relationships in general.
There have been about a dozen people throughout almost 50 years of my life who were seemingly the best within thousands of people I’ve crossed paths with, and even millions of whom I’ve crossed paths with via the web.
And these Souls who seemed very different from the rest of humanity was due to their authenticity (NOT just showing “right” “good” and “light” aspects, but Being WHOLE self/Self), free-spirit, honesty, integrity, unconditional love, compassion, empathy, deep character, wisdom, soulful eyes, thoughtfulness, great sense of humor, courage, wildness, playfulness, BOLDness, leadership, and other wonderful gifts; they blew me away, deeply touched my Heart and Soul, and/or inspired me, and I highly respected and admired them.
However, because of this very high standard, the majority of other people whom I crossed paths with, didn’t even come close to these amazing Souls.
And though I was aware at times that I was comparing (what our logical minds do), I had a challenging time denying how I truly FELT (that Sadhguru explained very well in the “thoughts and emotions” part of this video, that I had never heard of in this manner).
I didn’t realize that the automatic comparisons I was doing (and wasn’t always aware of) was to such a great extent (a non-beneficial one).
Because this led to not only many others NOT measuring up, but also being disappointed in so many people for their shortcoming, to include a lack of character, and the OPPOSITES of all the impressive aspects of the amazing Souls.
But it wasn’t their fault for being different, for having lower standards, and for ultimately growing as a Soul at their own pace.
I’m reminded that everyone is doing their best at whatever states of consciousness that they’re at; and this includes me as well, since there have been more than enough times where I felt disappointed in myself.
It’s completely understandable to miss amazing people—who seem like the whole package deal (“imperfectly” perfect)—and wish to meet others like them; but like Sadhguru had basically mentioned within this video, being overly attached to people we like and/or love (even wonderful people) can cause us to experience an aversion to the opposites (to include NOT so wonderful people), especially in their presence where it’s FELT (though we may not mind them when they’re NOT around and/or when we’re NOT interacting with them: in person, via phone, text message, emails, etc.).
And since this Universe naturally moves towards balancing and harmonizing energies within us and outside of us, it now makes sense.
In order to Be and live in this world in a non-attached way (i.e., “To be in this world, but not of it”)—NOT in a non-caring way, but a NEUTRALLY balanced and harmonious way—we must allow Life to freely and gracefully ebb and flow without needing to grab onto it.
It’s like we can appreciate white butterflies and the contrast of black butterflies, but we don’t need to catch, hold, and imprison these free spirits who flow with the Cosmic River of Life, and are impermanent as well (i.e., NOT something we can keep forever, even if we wanted to keep their beauty and grace close to us).
So whether these things are “positive” or “negative” aspects of Life (to include people), it’s about NOT being swayed by either side.
Because it we overly respect, admire, and/or love another, this can lead to placing them on an unnecessary pedestal, which stems from strong attachments, like “I can’t live without this person in my life,” “I absolutely have to be a follower of _____! “I have to honor and be loyal to this person more than my WHOLE self/Self,” “I have to sacrifice my life for this leader/pastor/priest/guru/etc.” which is unhealthy and non-beneficial.
I realized this applies to every aspect of Life. For instance, if we LOVE a certain type of delicious meal (hence, very ATTACHED to it), but it’s not available at our new residence location (town, city, state, or country), we can easily become miserable.
However, If we choose NOT to be attached to it, we can carry on with our lives, and perhaps learn how to make something close to it. OR, as we focus on the present moments and live our lives with much gratitude for all that we already have (i.e., Prosperity Consciousness), then we will surely attract this delicious dish back into our lives one day; and it will be a delightful surprise, since we had no expectations for it to HAVE to come.
The same goes for whenever we’re in relationships, situations, or even jobs (or careers) that we feel stuck in.
If there are no immediate solutions, then we can simply do our best to SEE the beneficial aspects of our temporary, current circumstances, and do our best to set ourselves up for an improved relationship, situation, job, etc.
Many Soul Teachers have taught that what we resist PERSISTS, and Sadhguru’s message added additional, helpful layers to this profound wisdom.
When it comes to the “thoughts and emotions” part of this video, I appreciate Sadhguru’s traffic jam analogy which is effective, very helpful and funny! ^_^
I also understand now why my thoughts would sometimes communicate to me, “Forgive this family member AGAIN (for the 1000th time or so), since s/he is very slowing but surely changing for the better,” or “Give this new friend a few more chances since they have certain positive qualities too.”
But yet my emotions, feelings, and my body are often like, “The red flags from them don’t FEEL light/true to my Heart,” “I more often don’t FEEL my best while in their presence and/or interacting with them,” and “When they’re not around, I don’t miss them.”
As the profoundly wise Mystic (like Sadhguru) Alan Watts has taught, it’s important to embrace ALL of our authentic FEELINGS, that reveals WHAT truly IS.
Sadhguru shared other great points—that I had also never heard about before—which is, “Inclusiveness does not mean you have lost your discriminatory sense,” to basically use the aspect of discriminating only when taking actions, which both perfectly matches the masculine energies within us.
But NOT need to discriminate when it comes to simply Being and experiencing Life flowing in and out and passing by.
For example, if a female is single, she can simply embrace the two men in her life—who are very much interested in her—just as they are, without needing to compare, differentiate/discriminate, and judge that one is better than the other.
However COMMA if it’s times to choose a sacred partner, then the aspect of discrimination (i.e., differentiation/distinction) becomes a highly beneficial tool since it can help her to choose the most resonating partner, who she PREFERS to spend the rest of her precious and invaluable life with (hopefully in a very healthy and highly beneficial way, the integrated Heart/Mind level of one WHOLE person/Soul meeting another WHOLE person/Soul, and NOT one person looking for another to fill whatever void they have within).
I would like to add an expanded perspective regarding the “thoughts and emotions” part of this video.
And that is, not all thoughts and emotions come from the past, but some come from the present moments of now (and/or future) when we are in alignment with our Higher Self: Higher Heart/Spirit/Goddess essence & Higher Mind/Soul/God essence in the form of Unconditional Love, compassion, empathy, intuition, inner-wisdom, discernment, insights, new ideas, etc.
Granted, ultimately, past/present/future are all simultaneously happening in the NOW from a Multidimensional perspective.
I’m deeply grateful for this video message; thank you so much🙏 Sadhguru💜 for sharing amazing🌟You🌝🌚🌗⚖☯✡🕉🔱💖and your wonderful gifts💝 for humanity and beyond🌌🪐✴✳♾.
This world is a much better place because of unconditionally loving and profoundly wise Souls like you.
Ahaya Mulantis 🐮🐯💖
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