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I shared the following message for one of the most helpful videos I’ve ever watched, “A Woman With No Friends | Best Motivational speech | #alanwatts“:
Thank you so much to the Spirit of Alan Watts and this YouTube channel, for sharing the most encouraging, uplifting, empowering, liberating, inspiring, and Consciousness expanding message about
invaluable solitude time (to deeply connect and commune with WHOLE Self/self), Unconditional Love (for Self/self/others/Life), Self-Worth, Self-Respect, Self-Realization, Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence,
(and other Self-____), Profound Wisdom, Peace, Freedom, Authenticity, Honesty, Joy, Passion, Creativity,
having no friends, Healthy Relationship with Self/self/others, Gratitude and Deep Appreciation for Self/self/others/Life, True Friendship, Every Stepping Stone of Success, and more.
For the longest time, it’s been mostly effortless for me to connect with and interact with many within this world, to include numerous strangers.
But yet, when it comes to maintaining friendships, it just wasn’t happening for a long period.
I’ve done my best to make friends over the decades, but I noticed that the last time I had consistent, true friends was about 26 years ago (before I joined the Army).
And since then, and even during and after military life, friends would simply flow in and out for brief phases.
I intuitively knew deep down that this was okay, since I didn’t feel a strong need or desire for them to remain in my life, and I didn’t really miss them—though I missed a little over two dozen true friends between 26-42 years ago (the latter during elementary school).
It was as if I was meant to go through a phase without friends, but because (as Alan Watts shared) society has deeply conditioned humanity on how our lives are supposed to be,
I sometimes wondered if something was wrong with me; hence, I wasn’t able to make and maintain true friends anymore.
In addition, I preferred not having any friends, rather than friends who weren’t compatible, didn’t feel genuine, had ulterior motives, and/or just habitually (keyword) FELT SO HEAVY with all their dumping of dramas and never-ending problems
(no matter how much Full Presence, attention, hours of active listening ears, deep understanding, compassion, empathy, suggestions, solutions, help, money, etc. I offered).
And yes, though I deeply appreciate, love, and enjoy genuine connections and interactions with so-called others within this world, I have noticed throughout the decades,
that I do FEEL the most authentic, peaceful, free, grateful, comfortable, fulfilled, creative, and joyful when I’m surrounded by Mother Nature,
to include trees, other plants, bodies of water, flowers, certain insects—especially groups/flights of dragonflies, plus black butterflies and white butterflies lately (looked up Animal Spirit Guide messages)—and/or alone (but not feeling lonely).
However, at times, when I allow the outer noise of this world to shake my inner world with all of its opinions, demands, and distractions,
I can temporarily become lost, and start to doubt myself, and feel as though I’m not being enough, not doing enough, not learning and knowing enough, not competent enough, not caring enough,
not contributing enough to society, not successful enough, not buying and/or investing enough, etc.
This video helped me to more: deeply understand, unconditionally love, and KNOW SELF, which helps me to increasingly connect with Life in profound ways.
DEEPLY APPRECIATE YOU BOTH.