I shared the following comment for the seemingly controversial, yet, very helpful video, “Why Love Isn’t Selfless, Love is Selfish – Teal Swan“:
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I noticed that I’m continually drawn to Teal’s thought provoking messages over the years—despite the occasional, minor or major triggers (blessings in disguise)—because she definitely helps to further open my mind and heart (to integrated Mind/Heart), aka expand my awareness/perspective/consciousness.
Thanks to Teal, I’ve been able to slowly, gradually, and even rapidly embrace and integrate more and more neutral aspects of the whole self/Self, to include being at peace with being selfish, aggressive, distant, and other “negative” aspects when needed (to highly benefit self/others), while not misusing or abusing these states, or allowing them to ‘take over the ship’ (whole self/Self) in a chaotic way.
For example, for the past two decades, I’ve noticed a pattern that whenever I interact with a very aggressive personality—someone’s who deeply wounded within, the way my own mother was—the energy of gentle kindness doesn’t work, since aggressive energy seems to laugh at and/or look down upon gentleness and kindness as insincere and fake (and/or even a weakness).
Even the energy of assertiveness—the “I respect you and me” communication style—doesn’t work at times with the aggressive energy.
But what I find fascinating, is that when I face aggressive energy with the same force or greater—not necessarily having to go into rage, but simply maintaining a very calm, deep eye contact, confident, unshakeable solid foundation full Presence—then this outer aggressive energy miraculously does a 180, and suddenly becomes gentle. and even shows some kindness.
The bottom line is, the aggressive personality backs the f!@# off when you stand up for yourself, and can even transform into a lighter, vibrational frequency state (via transmutation).
This so-called B!+ch aspect within me rarely comes out; but when it’s time to play a rough game, SHE will appear in an intense and powerful way; and I fully embrace and deeply appreciate this “negative” state since I trust that it will highly benefit self/others when need be.
I’ve experienced certain aggressive coworkers in the past who were this way habitually to others and got away with it (since many people are intimidated by confrontation).
But when these aggressive personalities experienced another side of me—who absolutely refused to take this type of BULL$h!+ from anyone—they appeared surprised, or even shocked, since they weren’t used to being challenged, and seeing the extreme opposite of kindness being mirrored back to them.
So I realize more and more why EVERYTHING (All That Is)—to include the so-called wrong, bad, dark, negative, evil, etc.—has a Divine Purpose that’s ultimately meant to highly benefit the WHOLE/the Collective/The One.
So ALL of our invaluable experiences are either obvious blessings, or blessings in disguise.
Another example story:
I recently experienced observing a situation that was intriguing, which may be related to Teal’s example story in this video about the guy who grew up having to fulfill the roles of son and husband to his manipulative mother; hence, feeling very insecure about his adulthood relationships.
In a nutshell, an older woman (perhaps in her fifties), really liked (or loved) this colorful shirt in one of the Sedona boutiques that I work at.
However, she said—with a sad tone masked with a bit of humor—that she wasn’t going to buy it because her husband only wants her to wear black, gray, and other neutral colors.
Her husband, who caught up with her, confirmed what she said. I wondered why, and thought that perhaps he was very insecure, despite loudly talking in a very confident manner (a façade).
Perhaps he feared that if his wife wore bright and beautiful colors that stood out, she might get noticed by other men, who could possibly interact with her, which could lead to him losing her.
Ever since I witnessed this interesting moment, these “negative”/”dark” aspects showed up in other customers on different days.
When another older couple came to a sister boutique, this passive wife was also hesitant about buying what she loves because her controlling husband apparently made her decisions.
So to my great surprise, I simply suggested in a calm, friendly, and assertive tone (to both of them), that she buy what SHE prefers since she’s the one who will be wearing it. They looked surprised that I said that as well, without seeming offended.
Another customer/woman said that she really liked this shimmering, golden orange purse, but her husband doesn’t like that color.
So I shared with her that what matters most is what she likes or loves since it’s her purse, not his; she gently agreed.
While typing this long@$$ comment, I now realize that I encountered, yet again, my once unaware/unknown/”dark”/shadow aspects that showed up in my outer reality to be noticed, embraced, and integrated into whole self/Self.
I was unaware of these aspects, that also exists within me (to a certain degree), because I buy what I like or love without my husband’s permission, though I often get his input to get a second perspective and opinion; however COMMA if I absolutely LOVE something (e.g., clothing, food, person, teachings, ideas, etc.), I don’t give a rat’s @$$ what anyone else thinks.
In addition, I’ve been encouraging my husband to wear what he FEELS like wearing (though I’ll provide input), along with giving him more freedom (to include him spending some alone time whenever he feels like it).
I trust that Unconditional Love and Freedom are interchangeable.
Overall, I’m very grateful for the precious existence of highly intelligent, authentic, wise, humorous, and creative Teal and her team, and their invaluable contributions to themselves/humanity/merging worlds/and beyond.
Granted, when it comes to outer, interconnected, soul teachers, I always like to follow my inner guidance first and foremost, and only take in what FEELS light/true/”right” to my heart. and disregard what doesn’t (which she also shared in the past).
Teal and team, y’all are deeply appreciated, and I wish for you to receive, a thousand fold, the various forms (and non-forms) of uplifting abundance that you generously share with interconnected Life/All That Is. ^_^
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Related post published today as well => “Our Invaluable, Personal Experiences Are Our Greatest Wisdom” (javelina spirit guide message)
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