The following is a continuation from a story within previous post, “Overcoming the Challenge of Letting Go of the Old and Allowing the NEW to be Birthed” that includes insights (image on right below found next to link => Amazon.com;I haven’t read the book, but the cover’s perfect for this post):
The behavior, expressions, and actions of the two estheticians there are very fear-based, despite one of their claims of being a very positive person, and the other’s claim of being very intelligent (which is true at times, along with their other strengths).
Like very aggressive car salesmen, their overly pushy energies often create a negative reaction in their clients, who make it very obvious that they have zero interest in buying the expensive products that the estheticians leave out for them to buy while paying for their spa service(s).
Unfortunately, whenever their clients choose not to buy their recommended products, they get very irritated at the end of the shift, and become very suspicious that the front desk personnel are behind the low sales (though it’s not our job to help them sell their products).
One day, one of the estheticians calmly said while glaring at me, “Maybe, if you guys got commission for these products, you’d be more motivated to sell them.”
I let it go, but about month or so later, she said with the same, disapproving facial expression and unpleasant tone, “I sold seven products while you weren’t on shift.”
When her shift was done for the day, I asked to talk to her in private, and I calmly told her in an assertive manner, while making strong eye contact, that I didn’t appreciate her passive-aggressive ways and negative comments that were inaccurate.
She had never seen this side of me, so she looked very surprised. She immediately did a 180 and became very friendly, and listed all the reasons why she admires me so much while explaining herself 100mph that I misunderstood her because those weren’t her intentions; she also mentioned that I was too sensitive.
I told her that I embrace my high sensitivity, and that it’s not a weakness, but rather, a great strength. See subtitle, “An Immediate 180 Change When Passive-Aggressive was Confronted by Assertive and Honest” from post, “‘Freak’ Shadow Aspects Within, Showing Up as Others, Before and After Full Moon.”
Soon after this conversation, the youngest, female Team Member (at the time, who also quit before me) shared that this particular esthetician treated other young, front desk personnel the same way, and that she was glad I was the first person to stand up to her. See subtitle, “The Empowering, Unapologetic Mistake Maker (Former Team Member)” from post, “‘Freak’ Shadow Aspects Within, Showing Up as Others, Before and After Full Moon.”
Ironically, this esthetician confessed about a month later that she’s very sensitive. What I eventually told both estheticians was that there are things they don’t see when they’re not around, like me studying the facial products pamphlets, or NuFace pamphlets, during my off times, so that I can help them better sell their products, or the times I came earlier to work and had mini meetings with the day shift front desk personnel so that we can work on ways to improve our support for the estheticians and massage therapists (though I’m not even the Supervisor or Manager, whose responsible for daily huddles), or the front desk personnel recommending facial appointments to guest who were only interested in massages, manicures, and/or pedicures.
In addition to one of the estheticians making her little comments, and the other one going off on me once and also trying to make me feel guilty other times, I’ve also become very drained by their habitual complaints about various work and life related things, especially in their whiney tones.
They may hate one another (the more dramatic one who yelled at me called the other esthetician “the spawn of the devil”)—and they’re known as enemies at the work place—BUT, they’re very much alike, and they should be forced to work in the same room so that they can face each others’ shadow aspects and get it over with already.
I realized I deserve much better than this type of habitual treatment from certain coworkers.
When I expand my perspective/consciousness, I see with much CLARITY that they, too, are my shadow aspects—the very fearful aspect that can be like a very aggressive car salesman due to wanting to survive.
And I’m grateful that they showed up in my Life so that I can finally embrace and integrate these aspects into whole self (without them taking over the whole ship/self), which can highly benefit me.
For instance, I have a strong resistance to the “very aggressive car salesman” aspect that’s been suppressed within me since it’s an aspect that’s frowned up by society; plus, like most people, I don’t like to experience others being overly pushy towards me.
However, I have no doubt that I can highly benefit from the energy that’s called the “very aggressive car salesman” aspect in smaller degrees, which can motivate me to sell my abilities, skills, talents, personality, etc. to this world and benefit myself and others on all energetic levels—physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.
I trust that the integration of this aspect will help me with my new Art Gallery position as a Junior Sales Associate.
So this “very aggressive car salesman” aspect not only showed up in its extreme version as TWO “OTHERS” (like a bright, blinking neon sign)—in ordered to be unconditionally embraced into whole self—but it also helped me to move towards what highly benefits me and brings me peace, love, freedom, wisdom, joy, and others forms and non-forms of uplifting abundance; hence I will THRIVE rather than merely survive.
As introduced in the post/link mentioned at the top of this post, a new Team Member that showed up in my reality recently—who’s very lovable, loving, a team player, and hilarious—used to be a manager, and then owner, of car dealerships.
Ironically, though he’s the one who was literally a car salesman, he doesn’t come off as an overly aggressive car salesman at all (like the two estheticians).
So I was given the golden opportunity (from Spirit within) to witness the different versions of the same aspect, which helps me to realize that I can attract so-called others to me by simply shining bright (Being authentic, kind, and incorporating a lot humor)—the way my Team Member does so effortlessly with seemingly every encounter—while even making an abundance of money.
Now this may initially play out at my new job at the high-end art gallery as a junior sales associate, but I have a strong feeling that it will eventually lead to other, new experiences—to include learning how to confidently approach, guide and provide those with what they need, want, and desire (which in turn helps me with fulfilling my own needs, wants, and desires since we’re all interconnected).
And who knows, maybe I’ll end up working at a very high end art gallery one day making MUCHO $$ while fully and unconditionally loving who I AM and delightfully enjoying what I do! ^_^
My new Art Director informed me recently—after giving me the good news that I was hired at the end of the trial day—to think of the new position as continuously being on stage where every moment matters.
Both the Director and the Manager reminded me to relax more and to simply be myself—which they both noticed I was Being and shining more of when it was only each other’s presence.
They also added not to think too much, or even worry about how to be the “right” sales associate; then, and only then, will people be naturally drawn to us, feel comfortable with us, and truly want to buy whatever they need, want, and/or desire from us.
Those very words were truly music to my ears, and that moment felt like home, despite my fear of the unknown.
I trust that, ultimately, this new experience will lead to the actual FEELING of the realization of Being the Master of my own stage of Life, which applies to all interconnected souls within this world and beyond.
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