I’ve never met anyone who shouted with joy, “Man! You will not believe what happened today! I got stood up!!”
Though that statement, overflowing with sheer excitement, may have never happened within human history, I do know from personal experience that one has the power to choose how that day’s going to continue, and how one will feel (which determines one’s radiance/vibrational frequency/state of energy attraction/like attracts like).
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A little over a decade ago—about four years after my divorce to my first husband—I went on a Valentine’s date with a non-boyfriend.
When he didn’t show up after a while, I initially sat there feeling awkward and sorry for myself.
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It’s understandable to immediately start thinking that one is unworthy and/or undesirable when stood up, because many of us been conditioned by general society (to include our parents) to completely rely upon others (outside of ourselves) for acceptance and approval.
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Most of us have not been taught to be completely comfortable and confident in our own skin and content in our own presence—which stems from unconditionally accepting/embracing/loving all aspects of ourselves to the best of our ability (no matter what).
And this isn’t due to anyone’s fault, but that this ignorant, fear-based way of thinking, believing, living, and being has been past down from one generation after another.
However, despite the initial, fear-based reaction that stemmed from another old and unhealthy habit, something ignited within me, and I wasn’t about to let the evening end that way.
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I acknowledged my body’s craving for some comfort food—which is understandable given the situation—and treated myself to a cozy Japanese restaurant where I savored some hot, tempura udon soup.
I didn’t know the words to fully describe the peaceful state I was in during those moments.
However, looking back, I trust that I was simply living and Being in the present Moment of Now—deeply appreciating the seemingly small things in life that we may often take for granted.
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Afterwards, I checked out what was playing at the movie theater, and chose to watch a comedy movie, 50 First Dates.
While standing in line for the tickets, I almost allowed myself to shrivel from the fact that I was surrounded by a lot of lovey dovey couples, which made me feel out of place; however, I focused on peaceful thoughts, which helped me to feel better.
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Throughout the movie, I found myself laughing my ass off during hilarious scenes, and I could care less about anything else.
Looking back, I realized that I didn’t need a date to have a great time, which is a reminder that when we’re able to be comfortable in our own skin, and enjoy our own company, then we can truly appreciate the presence of others without needing them to fill some void.
I’ve been proud of myself for that day, which felt like an obstacle I had overcome.
In addition, I chose to trust that whatever the reason was for the no show, it just wasn’t meant to be; plus, he, like everyone else, had a right to follow his own feelings, despite the insensitive method he chose to convey his truth.
About a decade later, it’s as if my soul/Spirit within was like, “Now that we’ve climbed over that hilltop within this theme, let’s see if we can climb over that mountain!”
The seemingly sad scenario of waiting…waiting….waiting…for someone…alone, at a public place, isn’t exactly sunshine, rainbow, and flowers.
Now add the lovely factor of waiting for several others, as opposed to one, two, or even three people.
So what does that feel like?
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Let me tell you what that feels like. If I was a kid, I’d say it initially felt like doo doo.
And not just a dry turd/log kind of doo doo that has a clean exit strategy, but like the huge pile of wet, mushy doo doo that explodes out of one’s butt, and that’s been marinating in the scorching hot sun for hours in the porta-potty, emitting an intense odor that smells like feet, @$$, overly fermented kimchi and Wisconsin cheese.
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So what can one do when faced with the challenge of being stood up, that could make one feel as though they’re shrinking at a rapid rate?
I will share what worked wonders for me recently; but first, let’s imagine a couple of short, hypothetical scenarios an as intro.
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Scenario A (physical mind’s limited, 3D perspective)
Let’s say the meet time was 7:00 pm.
It’s 7:10 (and no messages): You may be thinking, “Hmmm, maybe there’s traffic, he/she is having a hard time finding the place, or he/she’s running a little late.” You smile still feeling somewhat comfortable, and still looking forward to the meet.
7:20 (and no messages): You may be thinking, “What the…Ssseriously??” and/or “I hope there wasn’t an accident, or something crazy happened.”
7:30 (and no messages): You may be thinking, “Man, this better not be some ‘show up fashionable late’ shit” and/or “This is some BULLshit!”
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7:31 + (and no messages): You may be thinking/doing, “I’m outta here. I feel like an ass sitting all by myself with all these people staring at me and probably pitying me.”
INCOMING!!!…Many fear-based beliefs, thoughts, feelings!!!
Examples:
“I can’t believe this is happening to me!”: victim mentality that gives our inner-power away to others; rather than feeling victimized, we can trust that everything that shows up in our lives happen for us and not to us or against us- “What an @$$hole (or beeach)!”: “the blame game” that stems from not
wanting to take responsibility (as Soul/Spirit within) for all that shows up in our lives that are either obvious blessings or blessings in disguise; and this thought-form stems from separation consciousness where we don’t believe that everything in Life is interconnected and meant to highly 
benefit the whole, despite temporary outer appearances - “What’s wrong with me?!”: lack of self-worth/self-esteem/unconditional acceptance/love for self
- “Why did I even bother wasting my money on this expensive coffee?: regret: a very low frequency that tells
the Universe within that one doesn’t trust oneself, to include Soul/Spirit within who doesn’t make mistakes; and poverty consciousness where one doesn’t believe that the Universe is abundant, supportive, unlimited and benevolent
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Scenario B (unlimited expanded perspective/consciousness)
Meet time: 10:00 am.
It’s 10:10: You may be thinking, “Hmmm, I wonder if there’s traffic, they’re having a hard time finding the place, and/or they’re running a little late.” You smile feeling comfortable and confident that all is well in your life, despite outer appearances; and you still look forward to the meet.
10:20 (and no messages): As you savor your beverage and express gratitude for abundance, you can be thinking, “Beloved Self [aka Beloved I (God) AM (Goddess) Presence within], I trust that there’s a life lesson(s)/gift within this situation, and I thank you ahead of time for the blessing in disguise.”
10:30 (and no messages): You can be thinking, “Beloved Self, I’m sensing that there’s going to be a no show for all five people. I’m feeling down at the moment, and I ask you to assist me in Being inner-strength, courage, self-encouragement, patience, inner-wisdom and self-empowerment; but most of all, I ask that you help me to unconditionally embrace/love ALL aspects of self at every moment.”
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10:31 + (and no messages): You can be thinking/doing, “I’m done taking up a table and six chairs (to include five empty ones). Thirty minutes was a very reasonable time to wait for another” and start heading outside with much inner-peace.
INCOMING!!!…Many love-based beliefs, thoughts, feelings!!! ^_^
INCOMING!!!…Surprise! It’s a Blessing in Disguise!!! ^_^
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For what happened in real life—to include examples of the above, and the story of the blessing in disguise—click on post, “Two Different Perspectives When it Comes to No Shows for a Meetup” (that will open in another window) found in the “Discussions” category page within my Meetup Group, Rainbow Circle of Souls.
Update: I’ve included the message mentioned right above right below since my account to the meetup group will expire in August of this year, which will automatically delete everything within it. As of now, I don’t plan on continuing the group if the participation level continues to be very low and there’s a continuing pattern of no shows (since meetup organizers have to pay monthly fees):
4/8/2017
Hello everyone,
Today’s meetup, “Unconditional Forgiveness vs Conditional Forgiveness,” was a blessing in disguise, and I’d like to share two different perspectives with you so that we can all learn the life lesson(s) that come with them—extract wisdom from them—which equates to deep healing from any form of hurt, disappointment, discouragement, etc.
From a limited, physical mind’s 3D perspective, it didn’t feel so good to wait at a table set for six people for half an hour. It was too easy to take it personally, blame self, feel awkward,feel embarrassed, feel ashamed, feel rejected by others, etc., but I chose to love self unconditionally instead.
Why? Because I showed up…ready to be fully present with open and integrated Mind/Heart, truly hear with active listening, and share much Light (uplifting, transmuting, empowering info/knowledge) and Love (authentic presence, wisdom, imagination, creativity).
I even arrived 15 minutes prior so that I could order my lemonade before the 10:30 gathering. I did my best, and that’s more than enough. It doesn’t matter what others think.
Just as a heads up: This cafe is small, so no shows for a table can prevent other groups from using the space; hence, our actions do affect interconnected Life.
I understand that things happen, but in today’s instant information age, I trust that there are plenty of options for effective communication. Yvonne, I got your msg from 10am around 12:45; thank you, I replied back. I checked to see if I had any messages shortly before 10, but there were none at that time.
Now, from an expanded perspective (expanded consciousness), I was reminded that whatever happened today was simply meant to be for interconnected Life’s highest benefit.
I absolutely love Divine synchronicity. At 11am, I told the nice staff that I was gong to continue waiting outside to allow other groups to use the table plus six chairs.
I then met two, elderly gentlemen, Joseph and Freddy Jr. (and his gentle loving service dog Freddy the III), and we had a soul-touching connection. They’re regulars at the cafe, and watching them interact with various customers and the cafe staff with much friendliness and humor reminded me of the TV show Cheers (“where everybody knows your name”).
To my great surprise, as they shared their heartfelt stories, the theme that was beneficial was today’s topic. Like many souls within humanity, they too had deep, inner wounds that could use some unconditional love. In addition, they shared their own Light and Love.
I’m grateful for all the colorful experiences today that was more like an overall fun, but not terrifying, roller coaster ride.
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To see other related gifts received that day, click on => Interconnected Souls (album and captions)
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I also experienced number synchronicity within that particular series of Divine synchronicity, which happens daily.
After drying off from that morning’s shower, I stepped on the scale and I was exactly 111 lbs; and 111—a sacred number code that I frequently see within each month—has been reminding me of our Beloved I (God) AM (Goddess) Presence/Christ Buddha Consciousness within (aka Left Brain & Right Brain/sun + moon/Light & Love/Balance & Harmony/Yin & Yang/Divine Feminine & Divine Masculine/Goddess & God)
I was also immediately drawn to the message within the poster on the right, which I highly resonate with.
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For my birthday last year, my husband and I took my son and his former girlfriend out to a nice Italian restaurant (her favorite food) for their girlfriend/boyfriend 10th month anniversary.
We all ordered delicious meals and a dessert. In addition, I treated myself to a glass of moscato wine, and announced that I was doing so to also celebrate my own birthday (since my family had forgotten).
If my son and his former girlfriend’s relationship was serious, and their anniversary was an annual one, I would’ve allowed them to have the full spotlight.
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But since my very generous son celebrated their anniversary on a monthly basis with the works (nice dinner, gifts, and lots of love), I figured it wouldn’t hurt to add my own highlight of the day as well.
The old version of me would not have said anything due to my ego self wanting to do what’s considered polite and “right” according to society; however, I felt there was no reason to hide my heart’s desire to celebrate my own birthday.
Afterall, I wanted to make up to my inner child all the times that I didn’t feel important enough to have my birthday celebrated during childhood (and even adulthood).
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When my parents forgot my 16th birthday, and found out a week or so later—because my ex-boyfriend stopped by with a small cake and gift—my mom opened my bedroom door and threw me a $20 bill.
The following year on my 17th birthday, she opened my bedroom door and asked with an apathetic expression, “Do I have to make you seaweed soup today?” Note: In Korea, eating seaweed soup on one’s birthday is equivalent to eating birthday cake.
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I softly replied to my mother, “No” at the time, but when I shared this story years later with my closest sister-like, Korean cousin (who’s very assertive), she suggested why not demand in such situations, “Yeah! Make me some.”
I’ve always loved her inner-strength, courage, and sheer boldness—among other wonderful qualities—that I’ve learned to ignite more and more of within myself over the decades.
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From the 3D (dimension), physical mind’s limited perspective, it was easy to be stuck in negative thoughts (e.g., “My family doesn’t care about my birth to planet Earth”), which could then lead to feelings of disappointment and sadness.
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However, from a 5D+ expanded, multi-dimensional perspective (where we can see the bigger picture), I realized that that situation was, yet, 
another blessing in disguise—to help me to grow from it mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
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I had the choice to either feel sorry for myself, and allow that to ruin the rest of my day, or I had the choice to unconditionally love myself (t0 include celebrating self), despite outer circumstances.
When the check arrived, to my amazement, it was exactly $111 (not including the tax). I silently thanked my Beloved Self (aka Beloved I AM Presence) for the best birthday present ever!
I also mentioned a summarized version of the above paragraph in another restaurant review that came out to $66.60 within a few days of each other, which I trust is also a sacred, powerful number (“strongest female/moon energy”) that I explained in post, “Dream of Shouting to Goddess While Flying Through Wormhole.”
I kept both restaurant receipts in a sandwich baggie to remind me of that particular series of number synchronicity. I will also treasure the memories of the very kind and well-rounded waiter and waitress who provided us with outstanding service those days.
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Anyway, when all five members of my meetup group did a no show that day, I decided to check outside the cafe again.
To make a long story short, I met an interesting, elderly biker man named Joseph.
I made a note to check the meaning of his name when I got home since I’ve been paying more attention to the life lessons of outer world mirroring inner world. Note: Click name above to see one meaning; I usually read the “SoulUrge Number” and Expression Number” as well, and only extract what highly resonates with my heart
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Since every interconnected other (e.g., humans, other beings, animals, etc.) reflects an aspects(s) within us—polarities of known/unknown, good/bad, right/wrong, fearful/fearless, etc.—I trust that it helps us to learn more about and integrate the many interconnected parts of our whole selves.
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As Joseph shared his adventures and soul-igniting stories, he mentioned that he was also in another profession for 33 years. I instantly and intuitively knew that Spirit was giving me more reminders. As mentioned above, I also crossed paths with another elderly gentleman 
named Freddy Jr.
After I left the cafe and sat at my laptop, I was getting ready to share a get-well card that I had recently created for an elderly neighbor friend on certain social media that I use.
When I opened Pinterest, I noticed the number 33 in a red bubble at the upper right corner, which reminded me to look up the meaning again as a reminder.
I often use as a guidance tool, website, ANGEL NUMBERS – Joanne Sacred Scribes, for sacred number codes/angel numbers/truth codes, etc. Granted, I always follow my intuition first and foremost, and only extract information that highly resonates with my heart. Click on the number above to see one interpretation.
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Update (only this paragraph) inserted on May 28, 2017: I recently came upon additional interpretations for certain sacred number codes—aka angel numbers/truth codes/sacred frequency codes, etc.—that I wasn’t aware of before, to include 13, 33, 333, etc.. It’s from the very helpful post titled, “SEQUENCE NUMBERS & TWIN FLAME ACTIVATIONS ~ Jan.17, 2016.” Again, like all outer information that I come upon, I only extract what highly resonates with me, and discard anything that doesn’t since we all have our own filters that may not completely and/or accurately translate the Divine messages from Holy Spirit within.
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And last but not least, I had a dream during that time-frame, that an elementary school classmate named Ricky (from the mid-80’s) drew some overall, nice lookin’ eyebrows on me while I was sleeping.
I looked up various meanings, and many of them were similar throughout this world; however, I highly resonate with the following from Dream Interpretations:
Note: Image on right of Goddess Inanna: ultimately the same as Ancient Mother Goddess Ninhursag/Divine Mother Goddess Hathor/Holy Spirit/Prime Creator/Source/Monad/Higher Self/Beloved I AM Presence—aka I (God/Light/Truth/Mind/Yang/Sun) AM (Goddess/Love/Wisdom/Heart/Yin/Moon) Presence (original Twin Flame) found next to link => Vibrani (thank you)
“In a dream, eyebrows also mean love and unity […]
In a dream, eyebrows also indicate the state of one’s spiritual standing. When beautiful, one’s faith is beautiful, but when wild in a dream, it means that one’s faith is deteriorating […]”
Since the right eyebrow was slightly tilted, I trust that it’s symbolic of the remnants of doubt within my faith from my ego aspect of self (right side of the body correlating with the left side of the brain).
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The night before I had my first experience of being stood up by a group, I had dreams that included my sixth dream of a black panther. Note: In June of 2016, I published a post titled, “Fifth Dream of Black Panther and Message of Trinity“
The black panther spirit guide has various meanings, but what stood out most was the repeated “reclaiming one’s Power” from the shamanic reading, “Black Panther Power Animal Symbol Of Astral Travel Feminine Energy Death And Rebirth.”
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Recently, I’ve been experiencing a surge of blessings in various forms within this physical reality and beyond—receiving mind-blowing insights, hearing more tones (that are louder and/or musical) that I trust are igniting our once dormant DNA, seeing moving energy at times, receiving a new tune to a song I had created a while back (and shared within the category section of this blog, that I plan on taking further action on), having more self-empowering opportunities (to include participating in initially intimidating open-mic poetry events for poems I had created in the past), hearing amazing things happening for my grown kids, my husband attracting more clients, manifesting more abundance, becoming closer friends with some of our loving neighbors, reconnecting with certain relationships, etc.
In addition to those obvious blessings, I most recently received a blessing in disguise. I trust that it was one of the old, yet, similar experiences from the past resurfacing to be re-examined and transformed. Continuing in following post, “A Similar ‘Bad’ Experience Resurfacing to Be Re-Examined and Transformed.”
And I trust that it all stems from doing my best to Be authentic self each day, unconditionally embracing/loving more and more aspects of self (and interconnected others)—to include low energy moments or days—and feeling and expressing much gratitude for all the seemingly small abundance that we already have in our lives that we may often take for granted.
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