Farewell Old and Outdated Beliefs of Being Lower Class and Not Being Rich and Wealthy Within

Note: This is an update post from the previous one titled, “The So-Called Rich Woman Who Mistook Kindness for Weakness“

Yesterday at work, I was surprised to see the woman’s husband stop by my work since she had texted and asked for my address (to mail my payment) that morning since her husband was going to be out of town.

He sincerely thanked me again with his soulful eyes and kind words, and gently handed me a sealed, white envelope. He also mentioned that him, his wife, and the rest of his family would like to continue meeting in the future, but I just smiled.

His wife had enthusiastically said, “We will see you many times!” before I left their home on the last of helping them out, but I silently thought to myself, “No.”

She also insisted via a previous text message that we meet up for lunch or dinner, talk via phone, and even gather with her family members; but I didn’t reply to that part of the message as well.

When I later opened the mysterious envelope during my late lunch break—that my Supervisor seemed more anxious about (to find out how much)—it included a gratitude letter and five, crisp, one-hundred dollars bills (which my husband later calculated at home to be $50 an hour for almost 10 hours of work within two days, which was completely unexpected).

I then noticed a long text message from the woman that was surprisingly an overall, honest acknowledgment of her questionable ways (to include taking advantage of me), and sincere apology.

I experienced heartfelt forgiveness take place, though yesterday, it was only a logical thought (apparent in post mentioned on top where I vented from anger and sadness, and understandably so).

I stated “overall” honest acknowledgment of her questionable ways, because she also blamed her leg medication for her behavior at times, as well as blamed the bride’s family for being responsible for clean up at the wedding reception.

So I sent her the following series of text messages (#1-4), which also made me realize the importance of my own honest and healthy expressions of my inner-truths, especially true feelings (language of the Soul):

1) Good morning. Last night, I didn’t arrive home from work until 10:30, so it was too late to reply to your message. First and foremost, thank you so much for the thoughtful letter and generous payment.

I understand your last text message, and I respect and appreciate your honesty. It wasn’t so much about the dishes and other work, since it was apparent that the workload was due to two others not showing up.

By the way, I did text L___ that you didn’t receive any form of communication from her that she wasn’t able to make it. She said she did send you a text message, but it would’ve been better if she called; she apologized.

I observed some red flags about our encounter and interactions during the two-day events, and I actually thought about walking out since I strongly sensed that I wasn’t maintaining healthy boundaries.

One example: I arrived almost 20 minutes early to Friday’s event—despite two others not even showing up—but, yet, you seemed slightly irritated at me for not knowing exactly what to do.

Like I mentioned to you the first day we talked—when you asked me what my rate was—I told you that I didn’t know since I had never done anything like this before. I’ve never experienced having a wedding, or even attending one.

You stated that you weren’t able to inform me of the details of both events because you didn’t have such experiences, hence, you didn’t know what to expect. But I found out, from a conversation with Lauren, that you provided the Korean/American wedding for your older son as well.

Another ex.: when you asked me to move the large chairs in one of your living rooms (that I didn’t mind doing initially), you added, “If you’re strong enough,” which didn’t feel good. If I could redo that scene, I would tell you, “Yeah, I can’t move them,” though it wasn’t a problem at all. I like to often shift my perspective in so-called negative situations in order to see the bigger picture; but I still don’t understand why you would add that last comment.

2) I wondered if you chose to talk to me in that tone due to lack of respect. Yes, I didn’t graduate from a fancy university, I don’t come from what Koreans usually consider a “good” family background, I don’t yet have an abundance of earthly possessions, I turned down an $80K plus bonus career working with joint military as a contractor to work at a so-called simple job, and I’m half Japanese (which I could’ve easily kept a secret, but chose to be transparent about since I’m continuing to learn to unconditionally accept, embrace, and even deeply love ALL aspects of whole self (physical human self/Soul/Spirit).

However, my whole self is not merely defined by this world’s labels of what success looks like. I did my best in life despite many challenges and very little support from anyone.

I retired from the U.S. Army as a Cryptologic Analyst (stationed at one point at NSA-CSS HRSOC in Hawaii) and Human Intelligence Collector and Instructor who deployed with a joint task force. I only share this info to remind you that not everything is as it seems on the outer surface.

3) By the way, when everyone was eating the buffet this past Friday, I stayed in the kitchen and washed dishes, organized, and cleaned so that I wouldn’t create an awkward scene.

My stomach growled a few times, though I ate lunch and didn’t really feel hungry. I deeply appreciated your husband and [name excluded (the amazing bride)] suggesting that I eat something in such a gentle, kind, and thoughtful manner, though I told them that I was fine.

They, along with [name excluded (the nice and humorous groom)], were the reasons why I chose not to walk out a couple of times during the two days.

I strongly felt their authentic/genuine, unconditional kindness (which seems to be a rare treasure in this world). I would like to let go of the recent past and move on in life. I initially felt angry that I allowed myself to be tricked, and even disrespected, by a complete stranger at certain moments, whom I opened my

to; then the anger turned into sadness, and I cried (releasing/deep healing) and slept a lot (resting and recovering) on my first day off.

I’m okay now, and I’m actually glad we openly communicated a challenging situation.

4) Please tell your sister-in-law thank you so much (once again) for helping me out and being pleasant company. I especially admired her great sense of humor.

And thank you Ms. _____ for your shining moments as well. I need to get ready for work soon, so take care.

I wish you much healing, and I wish you and all of your loved ones an abundance of: great health