I’ve been seeing hummingbirds lately—right outside the house for about a week, a laptop photo that popped up recently, and even while searching for a matching image within Pixabay for this blog post.
I love 🥰 and continue to deeply appreciate 💗 many series of Divine Synchronicity.
And I’ve been thanking the Hummingbird Spirit Guide for reminding me of our already existing, unified strengths, especially Being JOY essence more often, and increasingly enJOYing the sweet nectar of Life.
I noticed how much more peaceful 🕊️🦌, free 🐎🦅, fulfilled 😲😃🤩🥰, and happier 🫠🐸🤗 I am WITHOUT all the unnecessary distractions.
I also noticed a tiny, cute, gray lizard 🦎 earlier this morning, while admiring the various types of trees 🌳🌲 and 🌵🌺🌸right outside the house 🏡.
As soon as I saw 👁️👀 the 🦎, I intuitively knew it was a confirmation reminder from Spirit as usual…
to DETACH 🍂👋🏼 from non-beneficial energies—especially a certain relationship mentioned further below, that’s been increasingly revealing one too many red flags 🚩.
I gave her many chances, due to wanting to give this friend a benefit of a doubt; but it was TIME ⌛️to MOVE ON 👣🏞️🛤️🛣️.
The lizard or gecko 🦎 can DETACH their tails when in danger from a predator, and then regenerate them.
And this particular Animal Spirit Guide has been reminding me of this for years; and I even wrote posts about these synchronicities.
At one point, it quickly moved towards one of the windows I was standing behind, as if to acknowledge my presence.
I 🙏 thanked 🦎.
I choose to NO LONGER waste my focus, attention, energy, time, and efforts on…
ongoing, non-beneficial, DISTRACTIONS—of both inner and outer worlds—that have frequently FELT HEAVY, draining, and exhausting.
And this includes my own, sporadic, negative thoughts at times, though I mostly FEEL VERY PEACEFUL when I’m alone (and NOT lonely; there’s a BIG difference).
These remnants of negative thoughts and feelings stem from old and outdated beliefs—deeply ingrained from childhood through adulthood—that I’ve been getting MUCH better at catching, and then gently introducing expanded perspectives.
Then I would notice how UPLIFTED I would FEEL, because it wasn’t about judging and becoming frustrated with myself during these times (though I have done this in the past).
It was about doing my best to deeply understand where these resurfacing old energies were coming from, embracing them, and integrating them into Full-Potential, Multidimensional, WHOLE Self/self.
In addition, while continuing to work on self—since I prefer to take FULL responsibility for my life’s happenings—I’ve also decided to further RELEASE what has NOT been HABITUALLY beneficial.
Someone I know said something in a zoom call recording that “we are whatever we attract,” which is NOT the WHOLE truth.
And I intend to share with her an expanded perspective the next time I interact with her—about The 7 Essene Mirrors of Relationships, and NOT just the one type of relationship mirror that many used to associate shadow work with.
The one type of relationship mirror is actually an old and outdated teaching within the broad spectrum of Spirituality, that became very toxic over the decades.
And it caused MANY within the spiritual communities to shame others for sharing any negative aspects or stories including negativity.
This has also caused MANY to avoid showing and/or expressing negativity—due to the fear of being judged by others—hence, often SUPPRESSING negative energies (with smiley masks).
But when SUPPRESSED, these negative energies only end up coming out in indirect ways (passive-aggressive or EXPLOSIVE aggressive).
I’ve witnessed a pattern of this “dark” side of always needing to be super spiritual and super positive on the outside.
But the SUPPRESSED negative energies don’t go anywhere, but just end up seeping out as passive-aggressive 🧨 , or later aggressive 💣 EXPLOSIVE 💥🌋 energies.
I especially noticed this in a MUCH more “IN 🫵🏽 FACE” way—due to the AMPLIFYING Sedona Vortex energies—while working at, and then living (plus working) in Sedona since 2017 (though fully released that lifestyle).
I had to check myself as well, to see if this was an ongoing pattern within me as well.
It wasn’t—since I’ve been pretty straight forward since very early childhood (from my own memories, and I’ve been told by my mother and relatives).
And this straightforwardness increased—gradually, quickly, and even RAPIDLY at times—in junior high through high school, early to late 20’s, and definitely while in the Army for over a decade.
Granted, I did go through a phase where I lost this BOLD confidence due to my spirit seemingly being broken over the years.
[ Part of the excerpt below added to next post, “WHY You Have Every Right to 🐅 Boldly Stand Up ❤️🔥for 🫵🏼, The Way Maya Angelou Did, Though Her Mother Told Her She was Wrong” with additional parts ]
So I realized there were times that I could also be both passive-aggressive and aggressive energy aspects, and everything else, though NOT habitually, since I didn’t prefer being these ways.
I actually prefer Being Assertive—the “Let’s respect each other” communication style—though as I’ve shared before within this blog…
I have no problem using either one of these (ultimately neutral) energies for a much needed and effective purpose for the Self/self/others.
For example, when a very aggressive person doesn’t seem to understand the communication style of gentle kindness or assertiveness…
I’ve learned through much experiential knowledge/wisdom…
that using a communication style that the very aggressive person is very familiar with, can IMMEDIATELY get their attention.
Plus, they BACK THE F#%K OFF, and their reaction has been of SHOCK 😳🤯😵💫😮 (most of the time), or even surprise 😯😲.
Then they interestingly do a 180, and become very gentle and nice (or genuinely kind); this included my own mother, as well as former Army coworkers, strangers, etc..
Though I don’t prefer it, I can even be passive-aggressive too.
This happened when even after I’ve been direct with someone—attempting to play mind games with me—by calling them out as I reveal what they’re REALLY saying, they still continue, trying to get under my skin, or being patronizing or condescending.
Then, I just give back to them—in a calm, cool, and collected manner (even with a smile)—an amplified taste of their own energies, which often surprises or shocks them as well, because I can play that game too, but better (though I don’t prefer to waste my time that way).
Or perhaps it’s NOT a waste of time, when these energies are used with discernment, I was just reminded from within.
Sometimes, we may not learn what it FEELS like on the receiving end of unpleasant energies, until we actually experience it from another (so a blessing in disguise 💝).
However, many and most people are known to be very uncomfortable with confrontations.
Therefore, often avoid them with fake politeness, smiles, laughter, and extra niceness (different from genuine kindness).
I probably made a lot of “enemies” in the past—by often saying it like it is, and pissing people off 😄—but OH WELL 🤷🏻♀️.
So this “High Vibes Only” collective belief—that perhaps stemmed from wanting to appear enlightened to others—eventually created what’s known as Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing.
Because many people were going around saying insensitive things like, “Oh my god, that’s ALL you [i.e., your negative vibes that attracted negative circumstances and relationships], or that’s all your negative karma, since we attract what we are!”
This was basically stating that if your vibrational frequency is negative, you attract negative; and there’s definitely truth to this, but NOT the WHOLE truth.
So “High Vibes Only” people, or even enlightened people—who exist and live on physical world, planet Earth—ONLY attract positive energies in their lives, and NEVER any negative energies?
Of course not, because even though we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, we are STILL human beings.
And we STILL exist and live within a PHYSICAL WORLD that comes with OPPOSITES/CONTRASTS/DUALTIY/POLARITY.
I have no doubt, that a TRULY Enlightened Being (a Master) can Be in this world, but not of it—with a discerning open mind (to avoid being gullible), and an open Heart with healthy boundaries (to avoid being a doormat).
And a True Master can effortlessly TRANSMUTE lower/dense/negative/fear-based energies, and help TRANSFORM interconnected Life of many worlds, but can STILL make healthy and beneficial choices of NOT habitually Being around CHRONIC NEGATIVITY.
Gregg Braden mentioned this in his back in the day Spiritual workshop, where he taught about the EXPANDED PERSPECTIVE of OUTER WORLD relationships, known as The 7 Essene Mirrors (that’s available as a 2 hour or so YouTube video).
I highly recommend watching it, though we can also learn from various perspectives as well, especially our own.
So I’ve learned on my spiritual/physical (ultimately ONE) journey, that just because whoever and whatever is labeled Spiritual or Spirituality, doesn’t necessarily mean who one is, and/or what is taught is completely true, partially true, or even true at all.
Even with the seemingly best of Soul Teachers, it highly benefits us to always follow our inner guidance/Heart/intuition/inner-wisdom/insights/and other love-based and psychic energies FIRST AND FOREMOST.
It’s very wise to only take onboard what FEELS right/light to the Heart, and discard the rest—while NOT “throwing out the baby with the bathwater,” since we can learn gems of wisdom even from the so-called worst and/or fake of spiritual teachers (to include who NOT to be, and what NOT to say and do).
Within us IS the ultimate Master Teacher, Master Healer, Master Alchemist, Master Builder, and Master of Frequencies.
I KNOW this because I’ve been RE-MEMBERING more and more via dream state, and via personal experiences within this particular, physical reality.
So when it comes to physical world experiences, I’ve been learning to DISCERN, when to help, and when NOT to help (and even when NOT to CONTINUE helping, because it’s NOT helping the other).
The following is a related excerpt from the previous post from today, “Pondering the Pros & Cons of “The Law of Giving & Receiving,” & How It Applies to Babies, Parents & Interconnected Life” (part of a comment shared for an Abraham/Esther-Hicks message video, that I mostly resonated with, except for below):
It also occurred to me that just because someone is in alignment with Source within, doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t attract other vibrational frequencies.
For instance, Abraham/Esther-Hicks attracts all kinds of people in her audience, to include those who have apparently studied and applied her teachings for years to decades, but some of them still have drama and ongoing problems in their lives.
Plus, one can Be Full Presence (i.e., in alignment with Spirit/Source within), but still prefer NOT to participate in HABITUALLY draining situations and/or relationships.
end of above excerpt
I learned from Sadhguru—in one of his profoundly wise YouTube video messages a while back—that whenever we notice a lot of chaos in our lives, it’s highly beneficial to REMOVE ourselves from whatever situation, relationship, and/or environment for however long needed.
And then Be within a safe, peaceful, supportive space, and do some inner work; that way, we can recharge and feel as though we can do anything from that point.
Otherwise, as Teal Swan had expressed well—at her NYC event a while back (my first and last)—(though this applies more to various forms of abuse)…
“One cannot heal a broken leg while another is continually kicking it.”
I noticed, even more so recently, that when my inner world stirs chaotic thoughts at times, I can more easily—and even effortlessly at times (increasingly so)—Be the Captain of my own ship, aka WHOLE Self/self.
However, if another is being HABITUALLY CHAOTIC, it’s MUCH more challenging to attempt to help them MANY times—especially when they’re NOT receptive to, or ready for, further learning, changing, growing, and transforming.
Plus, I’ve fully embraced today, that it’s NOT my responsibility to ALSO be taking care of others’ ongoing problems; and I don’t need to feel any degree of guilt, let alone shame, for deciding to choose Self/self (Spiritual Self & physical self).
I’ve learned that writing (or typing out) our intentions—rather than merely thinking about it and fantasizing—can help us to GROUND and SOLIDIFY what we prefer to manifest; hence, this blog post.
So when it comes to HABITUAL, MAJOR, PAIN IN THE ASS EXPERIENCES that’s from outer world, that we don’t need to distract us while we’re doing inner work…
I choose Self-Love, Self-Self-Compassion, Self-Respect, Self-Care, and Self-Loyalty.
I will definitely NOT miss the following, and hence, I AM COMPLETELY RELEASING this from my life:
1-5 hour, HABITUAL and mostly ONE-WAY phone conversations of CHRONIC, DRAMA DUMPING (under the guise of a “friend” who just needs to vent)..
since TRUE friendship is about Heart & Soul level connections, that includes a natural, ebb and flow conversation that’s about authentic and honest interactions and sharing together.
Plus, as I’ve shared with her—and many other truths and reminders she didn’t want to hear during this last phone call —there’s a difference between occasional, healthy venting, and CHRONIC, DRAMA DUMPING.
I consider this RELATIONSHIP MIRROR a blessing in disguise, because it helped me to learn to finally CHOOSE ME, in a recurring situation—with different people through my life (since it’s about the energetic essence)—where I’ve chosen others, due to:
not wanting to hurt their feelings, feeling sorry for them, making many excuses for them for why they’re not changing for the better, ETC..
I’ve realized more and more that being a crutch for others—enabling them to continue being in victim mode—is disempowering and nonbeneficial for them as well.
And if we TRULY care about their well-being, it’s BEST to SET EACH OTHER FREE.
Plus, after an abundance of Being Fully Present, active listening, sharing many expanded perspectives and solutions, I realized that when it often goes in one ear and out the other…
it’s NOT worth my ongoing focus, attention, time, energy, and efforts. I’m tired of doing my best to help those who don’t even care to help themselves.
I don’t need to be a frequent trash dumpster for anyone, just as I chose (long ago) to no longer be an ongoing, human, punching bag for others—whether physically, psychologically (mentally and emotionally), sexually, and spiritually.
The following is a related excerpt (and screenshot) from the previous post, “Pondering the Pros & Cons of “The Law of Giving & Receiving,” & How It Applies to Babies, Parents & Interconnected Life“:
I trust that Unconditional Love is meant for the Self/self/others/and the rest of interconnected Life within this world and way beyond, and NOT just for others.
And when so-called selfish and demanding “others” show up (great example, the “narcissist” energy aspect)…
it’s a Divine gift (blessing in disguise) that reminds us, that we are overly focused on others, and that it’s time to break away from outer world distractions, and fill up our own, inner cup;
that way, it can then effortlessly overflow to interconnected Life within this world and beyond (basically what Abraham/Esther-Hicks shared as well).
Update (4/22/2024):for above, ongoing situation
I’m deeply grateful that we’re able to part ways in a peaceful 🕊️🦌 way.
I was frustrated yesterday (not offended), but I’ve often been very quick to forgive from childhood through adulthood (last text exchange below, with her named edited out):
Continuing from Yesterday: 4/21/2022
I will NOT miss the following as well; hence, I AM COMPLETELY RELEASING from my life:
Online main, Google page of headline articles that are NOT encouraging, uplifting, empowering, inspiring, and Consciousness EXPANDING (but meant to cause people to feel bad about themselves)
Becoming increasingly tired of Netflix (hence, been decreasing attention to it)…
though a small number of TV shows, comedy specials and movies are highly creative and entertaining…
instead, whenever I FEEL like watching a show, I intend to further explore Gaia TV with an discerning open Mind, and open Heart with health boundaries.
Plus, I intend to read more since I’ve bought more books, as well as continue to work on my Multidimensional Life Coach project, and open-mic comedy creative hobby.
I will NOT miss the following as well; hence, I AM COMPLETELY RELEASING from my life:
One too many BOMBARDING: YouTube ads, Emails, Phone Calls, Text Messages, etc. demanding for everyone’s attention…
though I don’t mind—and even deeply appreciate—these forms of communication in moderation, from those who have love-based intentions.
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